I had an old boss join my company recently. They weren’t my direct report at my old company, but was my manager’s manager. Well, my new boss took me aside for a meeting and stated “there’s a negative perception going around about you”. She stated that her, my old boss and another member of current leadership were talking about the way I speak. She then says that my former boss told them that I wasn’t energetic enough in my last role. How should k handle this? My boss is agreeing with her

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That's very strange. Don't let them bring you down. It's a really weird comment and inappropriate as it has nothing to do with your work at this role

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I feel like you need to go to HR. Does this old boss have any reporting relationship to you now?

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My boss told me during this conversation that my old boss would actually be having some management responsibilities over me as well but I later found out from a higher leader that that specific information was false and that my old boss would not be managing me in any form or capacity

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What does energetic mean in this context? This sounds like one of those personality based evaluations given to women without clear information about what it means in terms of output and performance. 😏

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That’s very weird. Ask why did you say that? Can you provide an example? Have a genuine conversation to understand if there is some real feedback or not. Don’t let a person effect your brand.

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Thank you very much!

Bring it back up, and say you were surprised to hear that but want to make sure you can alleviate their concerns. Ask for examples of the behavior at this job. If they hem and haw, ask them to tell you next time they notice it. If they mention what your old grand boss told them, say very clearly that "I worked with xx a long time ago, and I don't think I have the same development priorities that I did then. If you see something you think I can improve here, I want to know that, but I'd appreciate it if we could focus feedback on what you've noticed about our work together here"

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I do also want to add - your performance from another company is, I believe, a form of retaliation? Maybe I’m wrong? But they cannot use that as a way to evaluate you today

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I felt the same! It feels more like a form of bullying.

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So sorry that happened to you! I would ask for more information about what it means to be “energetic “?

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Wow. What’s her current role in your company? Are you working with her in any way? And did you interact with her a lot at your last company?

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That’s wild. I’d probably try talking to your boss and saying you were surprised by what they said, because your last direct manager never gave you that feedback. Additionally, you appreciate all feedback but would find it most helpful if it’s based on your performance in your current role. And then ask for specific examples of being “energetic,” how you’re not showing it, and what they want to see.

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Thanks to each and everyone of you for your kind and helpful insight in helping me to navigate this!

Also to add, when she said energetic she told me it was referring to the way I spoke on meetings and calls I have not been here long so I am still learning a lot. I am also unsure what the entire conversation was between her, my old boss, and the other member of senior leadership nor do I know exactly why my name was brought up.

Would it be a bad idea to let them know I am going to HR about this issue? Or should I just take this to HR without them know?

I would go to HR and ask if things you share will be shared with your manager first. I wouldn’t tell them that I was going to HR. Going to HR may escalate things. But if you can confidently share it with HR then at least it’ll be noted in case they escalate things

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