Working as a Black Fem AAE and catering to my white higher ups whims and temper tantrums while being treated like an idiot is giving "history repeats itself".

Anywho, any thoughts on how to deal with bad management?

Additionally, best places in the office to cry?

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Honestly, it sounds like you may need to find a new job. It’s not worth your mental health to stay in a place that does not make you feel welcomed or will help in your career development. In the meantime, try and find someone that you can connect with at the agency. One friend/acquaintance can make a huge difference.

In regards to upper management, learn from them what you can. Manage up where can:
- if your boss has a habit of verbally telling you stuff, write an email to him later summarizing it so you have a written paper trail.
- ask questions if you don’t understand their direction/set up calls to discuss areas that you may need assistance. They can’t help you if they don’t know you’re struggling
- make a request/provide a solution to a problem vs complaining about a problem. For example you can’t finish a project in time, ask/suggest to your boss which parts of the project are priority and which parts can be completed later.

I hope you find something new soon. Don’t be afraid to reach out for a new job on Fishbowl, it can be a great place to network!

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So sorry you’re experiencing this OP AAE.
Best place to cry / stairwell on top floor where roof access would typically be.

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