Would you invite your boss or colleagues to your wedding? Planning for a destination wedding and currently inviting family and friends only. I’m pretty tight with a few folks at work. Low key worried that they will feel left out…

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Depends. You say family and friends only. Do you consider your colleagues friends? That’s your answer.

I also have a destination wedding and did not invite co workers.

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The only coworkers I invited I have known for over a decade and also went to school with. All my coworkers were aware of my wedding and some even bought gifts, but no one voiced feeling left out for not being invited. They were aware we were having an intimate wedding with only our closest friends and family.

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