I had a crush on a girl. It's been almost 2 years since I confessed my feelings to her and today she told me that she likes me too.
The only issue is she's a Muslim and I'm a Hindu. She believes we don't have a future and that's why she took a long time to confess. She is confused on what to do and even I am confused because things will actually be difficult for obvious reasons.
Please advice on what we should do now.
Should we part ways or should we fight for it?

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This will be very difficult because this is inter religion. Your have to accept them and they have to accept you, which may/ may not happen. Your kids - will follow which religion? Have you thought about that. Don't tell me that they will be Indian because real life is completely different than stupid reel life. You have to adjust a lot and sacrifice a lot. Some times your life can be in danger too(depending on the nature of your would be inlaws) if you know what I mean with you your family can also be in danger. This is not a joke - you are talking about a cultural shift. I'd say - let go and choose somebody in your religion atleast. Obviously- final call is yours. All the best!

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Picture this scenario, suppose you got married, you have a baby shower function at home. Her relatives will also come. They'll all be Muslim while your's will be Hindus. So your parents have to accept their family as well as they will be interacting with them on daily basis.

Another scenario is it is ramzan and they are asking you to stay at their house for 5 days. Will you be able to get along with her family?

Generally, we only think about the girl and we think that we will get only her I'm after marriage, but it's wrong. We get her family as well and don't think that you won't be spending time with them.

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My partner is Muslim and I am hindu.its been 15 years we are married and no issues we had til now. It's how you manage with their family and your family depends. My parents were liberal so we didn't had issues except the initial hickups. My in-laws had major issues but after certain time everything sorted out. You have to go through lot of struggle and both of you should support each other. If one backs out things won't work. Comming to festivals or other things you should be prepared to accustom to thier religion as well and vice versa. That will makes things easier. Both of you have to take a stand and proceed. Alll the best

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Unfortunately it does matter

If u r from simple middle class family then I advice to accept the reality and move one. Such marriage are possible when one side sacrifice their needs or when both are from top educated high class family.
Better to take call by looking at reality.

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If their race and beliefs are different, then their hearts are different. They cannot be us.
~ A Chinese proverb

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Be honest with yourself - can you spend your entire life with her? Accept her the way she is right now? If yes - then go ahead. Forget this religion barrier.
If no, then forget her.
I have seen people marrying within same caste, social background as well and still marriages breaking.
What matters is how truly you both love each other. If you have doubts, then it means you don't love her as much and may regret in future. Else, go for it.

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