31M here. Met a girl last week, 31F, and we hit it off instantly. We have so much in common and everything feels right, tomorrow will be our 3rd date. She slept over last night, no sex, but we made out all night. I haven’t felt like this for anyone in a while and it feels amazing, but I’m scared to commit. I have this fear of getting hurt or putting in effort only for it not to last.

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Be scared if you let her walk away. Continuing to hang out and getting to know her sounds easier. Fear is a feeling, a data point. Know what you want and go for it.

-from someone who wishes they did go for it.

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D1, tell your story

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You’re no longer 25 my man

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Oh my gosh, if you pass this up due to fear... well, I don’t know what might happen but DONT let fear ruin a good thing!

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There is strength in vulnerability. Also look up the Roosevelt quote “man in the arena.” Not specifically about love but I still find it fits in this situation.

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It always gets me fired up

Don’t let fear make life decisions for you. Everything we do in life is a calculated risk, so trust your gut and go for it.

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You might be single and alone forever. Let that fear drive you.

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Relationship isn’t commitment. Unless you’re marrying her tomorrow, you can call off dating easy peasy, no lawyers involved.

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There's no hurry to commit! Even if you both feel like things are amazing I wouldn't be close to considering commitment at this stage. You've known each other for a week. I think we probably all have a little bit of fear of being hurt. It comes with the territory. That being said, if you aren't willing to put yourself out there a little and take some risk you miss or on a lot.

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Allow yourself to fall in love. It’s called “falling” in love for a reason.

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31 isn't a girl. Maybe that's your problem.

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👏👏👏

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I hope it works out :)

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Love and marriage require commitments way beyond ego so if you want it be willing to let go

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Enjoy the high!

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