5th date was at his apt and 6th was at mine but I couldn’t cuddle to sleep or actually do the deed. I can see him pulling away now, would that look like to him I’m stringing him along ?

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Ask him, not us. If it’s someone you care about, communicate with them.

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I think it depends on why you “can’t”. Is it because you’re not attracted to him that much, don’t feel totally safe, or because you want to be abstinent for longer? Those answers mean very different things

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This and you have to communicate because people will all take it differently. The lack of willingness to communicate with people is really baffling.

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It would to me. In particular, it would in the absence of communication.

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You know yourself best. Is this normal for you? How soon do you normally sleep with someone? If you’re not comfortable, you need to communicate that and if you need more time, you simply need to say “I have really enjoyed getting to know you so far and I really appreciate how patient you’ve been when it comes to taking our physical relationship to the next level. I want to let you know I like you, but I usually wait until * were exclusive* to get physical”.

*put whatever you’re waiting for there*

In my opinion, there are no questions to ask him (ie am I stringing you along?) - set your boundary or say how you feel and if that scares him off, you just saved yourself a lot of time.

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I wish you didn’t even have to ask this. Cuddling with a person I met 6 times is mindblowing. Freaks me out. No way.

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That’s so intimate to do with a stranger

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