Advice for handling large workload and increasing responsibilities as a new midlevel M&A attorney? Multiple partners are trusting me with more and more work and leadership but I have barely seen my wife and kids in 3 days.

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Yea dude. This is about the time I rolled out. Decided wife and kids were #1 and not the job. Not to say one decision is better than the other for everyone, just better for me.

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It’s not usually like this but this whole week has been a fire drill. The other associate on my team has barely any work but my work list just keeps growing and is backlogged.

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Start building relationships with junior attorneys and paralegals and make them your core team. Your job is to coordinate and review high level work and be the bridge with the partners. Jump in where the need exists and clearly define the job of those below you on your team are.

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This will free up time for your family and if needed you can jump on a call or work later at night for fire drills . You probably worked like a dog when you were a junior so it’s your time to take a step back and focus on the new responsibilities.

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I think it is very dependent on your firm and the partners you’re working for, but for me, communication has been the key here. Being upfront about everything you have on your plate so you can ensure you are not dropping the ball. In some cases, that may mean asking the partner if you can bring in another associate to assist if there’s a good chunk of work you can delegate. If there isn’t, or if they aren’t open to that, then be careful not to overpromise and underdeliver on timelines. It’s possible to push through these times in short bursts, but if it’s becoming unsustainable then you have to be proactive and handle it now before it becomes impossible to complete everything you’ve committed to doing

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And if you are stuck in this position, just remember it won’t be like this forever! It always helps me to break things up into more manageable chunks of time/time blocking. And power naps and cuddling with my dogs, calls with family when you can squeeze in even a 5 minute break. And giving my spouse a heads up that it may be this way for a bit. I think this was arguably the most difficult time in my career but it’s a great sign you’re getting all of this responsibility and trust from partners. You just have to develop some new skills to navigate that so you don’t get burned out! Assuming this is the career you think you want long term.

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It’s not easy to carve out time, but I try to do dinner with family when I’m not in office (most days for me), even though it means I’m working late into the night. Would rather meet midnight then miss family time. It’s wears me down though, and I def can’t do this forever, but here I am 7 years in and still kicking.

Haven’t seen your wife and kids in 3 days?

Is this a 1-time thing or is this “the lifestyle?”

M&A is tough sometimes and there can be long nights, but it shouldn’t be the norm. If you think that the job is going to make you an absent husband/father, I would start polishing your resume and looking for other firms. It doesn’t have to be that way!

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