Advice Needed!

Situation: Current US Citizen with girlfriend (International) who will be graduating in December and start OPT (1-year). Considering the following options for various reasons, any thoughts/oversights appreciated. Will also consult with a lawyer but wanted to get a gauge from those with experience. Cont.

My boyfriend just came out to his mom and she’s been horrible to him... he’s no longer allowed to go home... I’m traveling for work. I want to be there for him. Any partners with advice?

My girlfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for 8 months now. We talk every single day online and recently I went to visit her for around a month. It was great and it seemed like the relationship was stronger than ever. But one week back after visiting her, I felt a strange detachment from her and our conversation topic got repetitive and stale quick. Any advice?

My friend just got out of a relationship and hooked up with his ex's best friend a week later. They're now dating and seeing each other everyday.
I couldn't help but feel like this wasn't an appropriate thing to do for both parties. He also revealed that he cheated on his past exes.

I'm naturally feeling a bit weary of his character and questioning whether this is a friend I want to keep close in my life. Perhaps I'm being too judgmental?

How did you make friends when you moved here?

Girlfriend has very obvious high functioning anxiety and body image issues that she admits but thinks she doesn’t need therapy or medication and that reading self-help books will help her. It’s not changing in the last several years and it’s impacting our relationship. Anyone have experience with their SO dealing with untreated anxiety? I know I can’t control her but would like to express my feelings without sending her into a spiral. For context, I’ve been in therapy for 12 months and medicated

I love watching my 3-year-old's engineering hacks... he wanted to pet the cat so he built a fort out of pillows and waited, now the cat's purring on his lap and they're both asleep

My 64 y/o mom is really struggling with her mental health and refuses to acknowledge it or take action. She is already difficult to have a relationship with, toxic, always shaming, blaming, dismissive and refuses to have important conversations.
6 years ago her husband/my step dad was killed suddenly and tragically. He had a man cave room that she has not touched since. It is beyond filthy, unsanitary and poor living conditions.

If I make attempts to clean, she has a meltdown. How to fix?

I have a young student with CVI and extremely limited mobility. She is able to vocalize but not speak. However, I’ve seen her response and mannerisms change (positively) in the presence of parents and siblings which leads me to believe that she is cognizant enough to possible use a communication device. However, I don’t even know where to start with researching the best one for her. Any suggestions?

35F divorced with a kid. I think I will never get remarried or in a serious relationship again. Lots of men don't like dating women with children. At my age either the guys are past their prime, divorced/ing and have to provide half their income to their first wife. Many with kids live on the same street as their ex wives so they can be close to their child. I'm not comfortable dating guys like that. On the flip side there are the ones that were never married, which by this age cont

Even after you left the narcissistic ex ten years ago, finalized the divorce six years ago… they still come at you. My child who splits their time between us left his ID at my place… the ex calls the police stating I refuse to return the ID… will it ever stop?

We recently sleep trained our 7 month son. He went from waking up multiple times during night and taking only 30 minute naps 3 times during day (most cases nursed to sleep or rocked to sleep or took a drive) to sleeping 12 hours at night without interruption and two 2 hour naps and one 45 minutes nap during day. We both love that he is getting enough sleep and well rested on one hand. On the other hand, we are now wondering if he is sleeping way too much.. contd…

Hi guys

This question may not be related. However I wanted to know from personal and family point of view how it is like to relocate from India and live abroad .
Let's say Family consists of husband , wife and a kid . I understand we will get good facilities, education, cleanliness , good air etc , however I wanted to check whether people gel up easily in the new environment? Don't they feel loneliness/ difficult to adjust? Do they look for similar asian nationalities to kill boredom?

I have strong feelings for my friend who also happens to be my superior at work. We also flirt with each other sometimes. I don’t know what to do.

What are some myths you all have heard to figure out if you’re having a boy or girl?

I'm a US citizen living abroad I applied almost 11 months ago for my spouse. Married for years, kid. I wait and wait. It seems this will take 2 years, maybe more. I feel trapped. On one side the US system demands I work and domicile in US, the other side says families should be prioritized to stay together. My spouse has had enough of the process. I feel trapped abroad and locked in a dysfunctional system. We're just in limbo, it's depressing

Anyone here ever been scared by some major differences in materialism with your partner? I’ve been considered “boujee” by some friends but my girlfriend of just over a year is on a whole other level. Lately because of many of her friends getting engaged / married, rings have been mentioned and she’s said pretty much she wouldnt be happy with under 25k.

I come from a very middle class upbringing, and so does she, although she’s influenced by friends dating professional athletes and stuff

My last therapist keeps coming up in my mind. I left her when I moved to a new area before COVID dug in and frankly it felt like leaving a girlfriend. She also disclosed in the final session that she was a member of AA and knew several of the people I occasionally discussed from the rooms. Her knowledge of the program certainly built trust with me early on, but it has been two years. I discussed it with my current therapist but she’s still in there. Any advice?

Booz Allen fish…Trying to gain some data for comparison. How many people are on your admin team? How is team morale? What’s turnover like? Are employees awarded or recognized for their work? How often? What about promotions? Are they happening regularly? TIA!

I’m 36 and I recently reached a net worth of 1 million dollars. I thought I was doing good but then I see other people with several millions and can’t help but wonder how they got there.
I feel I’m doing everything I’m supposed to (I save, I invest, I max out my 401k, IRA, etc...).

What can I do to upgrade my game and reach those higher numbers?

Hey beautiful people,
I’m 27Y and work in tech. Unfortunately my carpal tunnel is getting worst slowly. I’m worry that I still have like 45 years more to be retired and can’t stop working because I have a f* mortgage to pay 😭 I have a super ergonomic workstation, but I know my hand needs a long rest, and I can’t do it… Does anyone relate? What do you recommend?

Has anyone ever flown Silver Airways? Reviews I’ve seen look horrible but the regional route I’m looking into has limited direct options.

I just received an offer to lateral into banking. How does independence affect the stocks I currently own? If I join and my stocks are on a restricted list will I have to sell them? Or will I be limited to being unable to buy more/sell any during the course of my employment.

Hoping you all can stand with me in prayer. I’m emotionally and spiritually tired. I want my peace back. My self esteem has taken a huge shot. And I feel like I’m in a spiritual tug of war.

Any EY referrals for SaT M&A Consulting Intern? Don't know if referrals apply to interns but I recently denied an audit offer from EY and looking to increase my chances for M&A.

I have a CoPR but no PR cards and currently in US. Can I travel to Canada via road? Are borders closed for PR holders due to covid?

I have 315k Marriott Bonvoy points and a couple of free nights in addition. What is the best bang for my buck in terms of locations / experiences I could get? I am super flexible on timing and location, just want the best experience. Any thoughts?

Anyone dealt with a Christian parent who has been backsliding since the pandemic? Is this common? And how did you deal with it?

do schools even consider the IR and AWA sections if they dont factor into score?

Any tips for negotiating in-house salary (base + bonus (no equity, unfortunately))? NYC mid-level here.

What is salaries for Audit Senior in NY?

Hi! I currently work at a hospital as a per diem pharmacist and have been there for over 12 years. We haven’t had a raise in over 6 years. I am going to talk to my boss soon to ask for a raise. I was wondering what other pharmacists make in the Philadelphia area so I know how much I should ask for. Thank you!

Hi Fishes,

What should be the CTC for Senior Product Analyst Role in Global Risk and Compliance (GRC).

Having Total 9+ Yoe

Hi fishes,

What should be the average CTC of 9.6 yoe .net Full stack developer as per current market. Experience on Angular, VueJs and Dotnet core.

How is tiger analytics in terms of work culture and employee benefits ?What is the annual hike percentage that tiger provides ?please pour your thoughts.

Hi Fishes, I am working as an IC in QA role with more than 15 years of experience, not getting good hikes and currently having 27.20 lakh INR, which I think its too low as per my experience range. Can some one suggest in QA role, if still chances are high to get good salary hike? Whats the best I can do and if anyone is aware of any suitable openings?

Hi Fishes,
Please help me, what salary i expect in Global Reconciliation, after 2 years of experience.

How long does USCIS take to reply, once you have submitted your RFE (request for evidence) documents? Has anyone been rejected based on RFE?

Anyone filed in your application for AOS/ead after October bulletin? I heard a case packet was sent back because it included a request to downgrade from eb2 to eb3. Any recent experiences?

Had my GC biometrics appointment in April under EB13 category. What have people here seen as the general wait time to getting the GC from here on? I’m hearing 6-12 months as well as 5 months in some cases

Hi Fish fam!

My company has started my I-140 application. The first stage is complete - got my prevailing wage approved. My HR recently told me that during the next stage (advertising for the role and PERM), my salary cannot be changed - no hikes or raises. Is this true? Some colleagues are giving me conflicting information so I wanted to be sure before asking the HR again.

Anyone has experience with EB1A lawsuit? IMy EB1A petion was denied by USCIS and my attorney filed a lawsuit. Now the Summary Judgements have been filed.

When will they publish Nov Visa? Does it make sense to down grade from EB2 to EB3?

Hey all, received a Perm audit in Oct 2020 for my case filed in May 2020. It seems like a random audit. Any thoughts of how long it will potentially take to resolve? To make matters more complicated, I’m on a F1 visa OPT expiring within 3 months

Anyone go from f-1 to eb3 or hear of anyone successfully doing so?

Anyone had experience with rescheduling your biometric appointment with USCIS? I’ll be at my home country for H1B renewal during the scheduled day and would like to reschedule. What is the process like and how responsive are the agent?

Marriage based GC question - biometrics scheduled next week after 9 months of receipt notice (finally!). Anyone knows how long before I get my advanced parole? Anyone recently received their i-131?