All these weddings are blowing my mind and budget. I've had 5 weddings so far this year with several more to go by EoY. On top of that I've been asked to be in a lot of them which adds additional time commitment and cost. The cost of a bachelor party + shitty men's warehouse suit rental + travel and airbnb for the weekend + couple hundred bucks for wedding gift means I'm blowing tons of money for these weddings but I feel bad to say no.

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It's a serious blow to your piggy bank when they're all scheduled on top of each other.

My 2cents is to say No to those that you're a friend of a friend, work colleague, or any bit distance. If you feel they invited you to be polite, it's not worth it.

On the flip side, should the bride or groom be anyone that you're close with, enjoy the lead up and celebration the most you can. After this time in your 20s and 30s, the future stories you and your friends have together will be numbered;
Lives will get busy and months will turn into years. Make the most of them now, take the decent in the bank, and enjoy the friendships that you've cultivated.

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Start getting selective. It’s okay to say no. They will be surrounded by lots of other friends and family.

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But like I'm out 10k+ this year on this BS.

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There will be a time when all your friends are finally married and then you won’t have these expenses anymore. Say yes only to the important ones (I imagine the ones you’re asked to be in). I had 13 weddings one year and managed to go to half. None of them were local. Split a hotel room or Airbnb when you stay. And get an airline credit card to use up the signup bonus points, then get rewards points for the rest of the flights. Weddings are expensive to attend, not even counting the bachelor parties, but they’re worth it in my opinion. I rarely get to see my friends who live all over the country all in one place.

Are some of these weddings ones that were delayed from the past 2 years? If so, it’s probably a blip in the matrix due to Covid and won’t continue.

I agree with being selective. Weddings are fun, but can be a big commitment of time and money. Don’t be afraid to decline to attend and send a gift.

Also, if you don’t already own a suit or two, you probably should make that investment. Unless it’s a full black tie affair, a good suit and a few different pants / shirt / tie (if necessary) options will continue to pay for itself.

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