Any advice for discussing transphobic comments made by the regional managing partner at our annual meeting? I want to say something to him and be respectful about it

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What did he say? He may be unaware that his behavior is unacceptable if it’s not brought to his attention

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I think as long as you come from a place that isn’t defensive and seeks to educate you’ll be fine. I always say “I’m not offended but I know how others may perceive it and I’m trying to watch out for you.” That way they don’t feel attacked. And remember be calm and unemotional.

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Hmmmm. Seems like a very definite move on his part, rather than something accidental. “These are the men, and I still think Caitlyn is a man” he could have used any number of examples of branding but went out of his way to make his point. (I really don’t understand why the Kardashians are even famous, at all. But what do I know.). He seems like he would be hostile to your opinion so I would bring it up with the LGBT leaders. (I’m a pretty introverted non-confrontational person myself)

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Basically the comments were during our annual meeting and the topic was branding. He used the Kardashians as an example and had a slide labeled the men of the Kardashian Family and included Caitlyn Jenner, referred to her as Bruce and used the he pronouns a lot. I didn’t have a chance to grab him at the happy hour but I talked to my CA and that seemed to be the best approach.

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Agreed. Seems pretty intentional.

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be honest and open.

Wondered what exactly was said. Do you have a national LGBT group? You Could contact them and let them address it? I would think they already received some complaints and are in a better position to deal with it.

Yeah sounds like he was trying to include transitioning as part of his comedic anaology not realizing it's 2018 and that's not cool anymore.

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