At what age did you stop comparing yourself to others and became comfortable with your own path? I can’t stop comparing myself to others who come from more wealth, have more wealth, and are better looking than me. Also have a history of self loathing which doesn’t help.

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It’s an individual introspection and work of self-love and confidence. I’m in my late twenties. Even though, I’ve made significant progress, i’m still working on this. My goal is to have this on lock by the time i’m 30.

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I don’t think it is an age, rather how long you go through therapy to overcome certain perceptions of yourself. So it can happen in your 30s or 40s or 🤷🏾‍♀️

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Just starting to happen at 27. Hoping by 30 I’ll be fully secure but we’ll see😂

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Dealing with some similar thoughts lately based on living in a HCOL city surrounded by people with generational wealth. I try to remind myself that nobody chooses the circumstances that they’re born into and the self sufficiency and confidence that I have based on my ability to support myself is valuable in its own right. Money can and absolutely does buy looks, lifestyle, etc. I’ve muted anybody on my social media platforms that I see constantly posting about designer junk or fancy vacations or eating out in Michelin star restaurants 4 times a week etc, which definitely helped a little.

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Also I’m 31 and still dealing with this. Being at an age where friends are having insane weddings and moving into houses and apartments that their parents purchased outright for them has been really challenging specifically.

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There are many reasons be grateful that you did not grow up in a wealthy family and that you may raise your children (or just yourself) in a middle class atmosphere. Wealth can mean a certain type of security and comfort, but it also can come with some very specific drawbacks.

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Can you give examples of the specific drawbacks?

Man i wish it was just age. It's also the location. I used to be a big fish in a small pond. Now I'm a small fish in a big pond.

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After 25

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When you accept that there’s always going to be someone out there who has more money, better life, or better in general

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It'll come in waves. My first wave was learning not to compare at school when I was 15. Then at university I found myself comparing on other things and learnt not to again by 23. Then stayed comparing on other things during my work life and graduate studies.

I go through cycles of this on different addicts of life. My goal is to speed up that cycle.

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I struggle with the same thing and I just turned 30. I’m working through it with therapy now but I’m hopeful my 30s are the years of self confidence and self worth!

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Never stopped comparing myself or pushing for something more, but always been comfortable with myself. It's not mutually exclusive.

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