At what point do you stop wearing makeup around your SO? I’m approaching 2 years with my boyfriend and have yet to remove my makeup/extensions/lashes around him. His ex is soo pretty and I’m afraid he’ll leave me if he sees me not all done up 😩

If he leaves you when he sees you not all done up, you don’t want him anyway. If he wanted his ex, he’d go back to her whether or not you wear makeup.

To answer your question tho, whenever that first sleepover happens. So usually within a few weeks. After that, I wear makeup on any dates (because I like to, not for him) but if we’re just hanging out then I’m usually makeup free.

Jesus Christ, why are you doing this to yourself? Do you really want someone who NEEDS MAKEUP not to leave you? Do you realize you’re going to get older and less conventionally attractive anyway? Shouldn’t love be more than… this? I bet you are beautiful. What does HE DO to make you attracted to him?

But replying to your message, first month dating probably the person has seen me without makeup. This shit is not good for our skin and I love myself

My fiancé said I am prettier without makeup and prefers my fresh face

By month three I was hardly ever wearing makeup in front of my (now) husband. Today I only wear it for date night/going to the office (hybrid worker)

Do you really look that much different without makeup/lashes on? Girl, you must wear a LOT of makeup. I am sorry you are so insecure about this and your relationship with him. 2 weeks of coverup I might understand, but 2 years??? Crazy. Maybe this relationship is not the right one as it seems that it’s not built on honesty (on your end). Give him a chance- likely he isn’t that superficial. The fact that you are acting like this and asking these questions is the biggest red flag to me.

OP sorry my friend but you need help. Being paranoid about your looks and a man is draining. I hope you love yourself , get hobbies and make friends

What’s ironic about this is that you’re destroying your skin by doing this and effectively speeding up your aging process b

There’s a lot of good advice in this thread. I think it really comes down to compatibility. Dating men who are a good match rather than the richest or best looking guys. If I consider myself a 7, I’d rather date another 7 than an 8 or 9, so the compatibility is right and I can always be the pretty one in the relationship lol.

Girl….read this good. You are beautiful, you are worthy, you are powerful. If you disagree with any of these things you need to do the internal work - put some post it’s on the bathroom mirror and remind yourself, work out to feel better, see your dermatologist if something is there you want changed..hiding your true self serves no value. Your boyfriend will appreciate your natural beauty or he won’t but you have to be strong enough for either side of that coin. It’s not to say you can’t wear makeup…you can and should but for different reasons….because you like it not because you need it. You stop wearing makeup early in the dating phase so there are no surprises that’s the simple answer to your question but the question has so much layered concerns, just thought I would remind you of your value.

Okay. Here is the thing. I have been with my SO for almost 15 years. In the past few years, I have had very unexpected medical issues such as hip and back surgeries in my early 30s due to crappy genetics! My SO legitimately had to lift me into the shower after my hip surgery, etc. If we did not truly love and care for each other, we would not have made it through any of this. That is the kind of person you need in your corner. Anyone who does not love you for who you are is not worth your time or energy. Put your effort into finding your person, someone who could not care less if you wear makeup or not.

If you’re this afraid to lose someone over your looks … I think it’s time to seek therapy and work on personal issues first.

The second date lmfao 😄 he didn’t care at all and said I have natural beauty and don’t need make up anyway. Be confident! If he likes you for you, he won’t care. If he decides to dump you because you don’t have fake lashes anymore, consider it a bullet dodged as you don’t want to be with a partner like that anyway

Just want to say I understand the desire to keep looking beautiful for your partner, especially if you know he personally cares a lot about physical beauty based on his previous comments.

For me I took off my makeup before bed once I started sleeping over, but I do wear makeup during the day most days he and I are together. I mean, I know I look better with it lol - it’s why I use makeup. He has also called me beautiful when we are cuddling in morning or night when I am sans makeup. I think of it as both parties in a relationship wanting to be their best for the other person, which includes being physically attractive for the other person.

Also I really like this post written by a guy who talks about the male perspective on what men think of women without makeup - his blog is for women to understand men in the dating context, he is generally honest but well intentioned (like an older brother way), here are excerpts that relate to your question - hope it helps!

“2. He is going to see you without makeup eventually, so don't make inordinate attempts to avoid being seen bare-faced after the first few dates. By inordinate I mean things like canceling a date because you won't have time to do your hair perfectly, or completely avoiding a hike with him because full makeup and hair would be inappropriate. I don't mean spending an hour getting ready for a date. Spending time to make yourself look your best is normal, not inordinate; so err on the side of doing this more frequently rather than less. Just beware that there is an upper limit to the benefit of added effort, since he will see you without makeup eventually.”

“7. There is something intimate about seeing a girl without makeup. When I've seen my ex-girlfriends without their hair and makeup done, I've had two thoughts: (a) she is less attractive, but (b) it is nice that I get to see this side of her.”

“8. He isn't expecting you to be as hot without it as you are with it. Men understand that you aren't going to be as beautiful without your makeup on and hair done. This is expected, and it is factored in to their evaluation of your attractiveness. “

http://www.therulesrevisited.com/2013/04/what-men-think-of-you-without-makeup.html?m=1

Be yourself. If you can’t be yourself, then you’re with the wrong person.

You don’t want or need a) a superficial man or b) one who doesn’t find you attractive. EFF him and find someone you thinks you’re fiyah!

Work on your confidence. Don’t do shit for him and if he leaves you for a Maybelline girl that’s on him.

This is just sad. OP, have you considered therapy? It sounds like you have deep rooted insecurities you need to work on.

Bro do not do this to yourself. If he leaves you over you not wearing makeup to bed, you should’ve left him first. Honestly, he should’ve asked you by now why tf you wear makeup and jewelry to bed 💀

Please give us an update!!!

Are you in full blow glamour? Plan to dial it back slowly as time progresses so that he won’t really notice or have him be comfortable. Maybe start off small like less blush or eye shadow or foundation. Then move on to lashes etc. if he immediately reacts negatively, he isn’t there for you you.

Maybe try taking off gradually if that makes you more comfortable

What are you doing during showers, baths, or swimming? Most men love a fresh clean face. Unless we're talking drastic contouring and caked on foundation, he will probably never notice because he already likes you for who you are.