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I would check off long term relationship and then make one of your promote like “I’m looking for … someone who is dating intentionally, looking for a meaningful connections. I’m value [xyz] and enjoy [blah]. Hoping to find someone who shares these interests.”
On dates, I would lead with this question but if you think it’s going well, I would say I’m dating intentionally and want to make sure we’re on the same page, what they’re ideally looking for? Someone who skirts this question or gives a vague answer probs doesn’t really know what they’re looking for…
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I agree it’s too stiff and laying it on a little thick.. you don’t want to come off hostile or bitter which it kinda sounds like you might be?
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Dating with intentions is the best way to phrase it. Someone with healthy relationship skills understands what that means and won’t waste your time either.
Be open to going on multiple dates with a person. You have to date to get to know someone and assess compatibility, you don’t typically marry the first person you go on a date with. Be cautious not to love bomb or come off too strong. I’d allow for about 5 dates per person to get an idea if you both want to progress to exclusive dating. Pick some good restaurants and think of date ideas ahead. Don’t be cheap. Consider it an investment.
“Intentionally dating” in consultant speak.
Lots of single women here 👀…tell us more, you might get some DMs
Well swipe right me when I update my profile later today
Love your honesty. Best of luck to you
Be upfront and be prepared for less matches, but it’s absolutely doable. My wife is someone I met when we were both looking for a LTR. We made our preferences known upfront and we were better because of it.
I’d rather get one quality match a month than ten matches of duds a week.
Chief
Yeah doubt it will be significantly fewer matches
As a married woman who was looking for a life partner 4 years ago and met my husband and PERSON (I love him so much !!) on Bumble, I don’t think that phrasing is creepy at all. In fact that language is exactly what you need to put out into the world to attract the right person who is looking for the exact same thing. It only takes one tbh. Good luck, friend !
Honestly aren’t all women looking for a long term relationship? It’s unspoken.
It’s usually the other way around with women who have to weed out the non-commitment types. You’re in NYC of all places, as long as you don’t cheat, don’t abuse, don’t have BO you can get a wifey. You don’t even need a good job if she has one.
M1: 7 and counting so hopefully and I do have a pretty solid job. I am a good texter I know that helps. I am not good looking, tall which doesn’t help but working on it too. So it’s a journey I am on it. And yeah fingers crossed 😊😊😊
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Are you looking at women your age range? A lot of us are on the apps looking for exactly this. Isn’t there a serious relationship thing you can check off? Don’t know the categories off the top of my head.
It’s cos I am short. Nothing else.
I have seen profiles having “life partner/long-term relationship” and then in one of the prompts they mention “intentional about dating and if things align might lead to marriage”.
As a woman, I don’t think it’s off-putting because I would hate to waste my time on someone who is just playing around!
On dates, make sure you don’t lead with basically ‘interviewing for the wife position’. Before I found my boyfriend, I’ve decided to give a chance to guys your age (was 30 then) who stated something similar in their profiles. It resulted in me sitting through a string of dates where I felt interviewed and compared to a checklist of what one may look for in a wife (e.g., “how do I feel about moving upstate where you will get into aquaponics? idk, I don’t know you and won’t tell you on the first date”). With this, I recommend not coming off too strong and ensuring that you don’t come off looking for a wife function first, a person second
Chief
Agreed. Don’t do this. First date should be less heavy.
Most women are looking for serious relationships. They don't want to date around either. You'll probably get a lot of matches!
Why would anyone be turned off by a guy wanting a girlfriend? Most girls are sorting out which guys are faking being open to it. Juts brag about it lol.