Boyfriend is active on social media but does not post me. I posted a pic of us with his permission. I asked if he was going to do the same, and he said it just wasnā€™t his thing and that he never posted previous gfs. He did post a pic of me on his sorry from very far away without a tag. My brain immediately goes to: 1- there is someone else heā€™s seeing and he doesnā€™t want them to know about me. Or 2 - heā€™s not excited and proud to show me off. What do you all think?

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How long have you been together? It took me about 6 months to post my BF at the time bc before I put him on social media I wanted to make sure it was more serious.

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I think it depends what he posts. If he posts a lot of pics of himself and of friends, then maybe a little more odd than if heā€™s posting a lot of food/scenery/art/memes whatever. Sort of like, how personal is his content?

I think dynamics with family or coworkers who follow someone can be complicated for adding pictures of significant others so I give it a little space.

I donā€™t have a bf but trust your gut

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Ya I do hear you on this šŸ˜•

Married for 9 years. My husband doesnā€™t post anything about us on social media and is all ā€œletā€™s be happy in privateā€ he posts work stuff and articles. I sometimes feel sad about it then I remind myself that social media is a display window of cherry picked moment that by no mean represent peopleā€™s actual life.

I donā€™t really know what the advice is here. Even after years in a relationship it still really stings. But some men are really not into social media for the social / community aspect. šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø

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I wouldnā€™t love that ā˜¹ļø have you talked to him about it?

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ā€œIf ain't no ring on my finger, you ain't goin' on my 'Gramā€- Cardi B

In all seriousness, in took me a over a year to post, though I am too invested in Instagram. Have you met his friends? To me that is a greater indication how he feels than Instagram.

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Hahhaha and yes have met most of his friends

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I mean you said he is pretty active on social media, does he post pics/stories with his friends and family, selfies, and things that he does (restaurants, food, etc.) and what not? If yes, then at some point it would be weird if he posts all of this but not you. And if his excuse keeps being ā€œitā€™s not my thing I never posted GFsā€ in this scenario it just sounds like a very cheap excuse and ultimately very dismissive of your feelings. I know you two just very recently started an exclusive relationship so if it was me Iā€™d give it a little bit more and see how it goes.

Now if heā€™s that kind of guy who barely posts anything and when he does itā€™s a fishing šŸŽ£ pic (lol) or only uses social media to scroll through memes and news etc but barely knows how to even use the app, then ok I guess.

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Took me 6ish months to feel comfortable posting my boyfriend too. I was more nervous about jinxing it, or getting questions from friends I hadnā€™t caught up with in a while/hadnā€™t told personally yet, than the reasons you mentioned. That being said, agree with PwC1! If heā€™s otherwise shady it could be shady.

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Help to hear this side, thanks! Otherwise not shady at all so thatā€™s why this surprised me

I think it would be good to understand if a.) he doesnā€™t post much on social media at all or b.) he is pretty active but doesnā€™t post / tag pictures with you. My husband barely uses social media and I post enough for the two of us šŸ˜… but if he is of the category b, either he thinks itā€™s too early or maybe something is suspicious. Either ways go with you gut feeling!

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Unfortunately itā€™s B

Some people like to move in silence. Had a friend who never posted her bf until they were engaged. Only close friends knew she was even taken let alone in a serious relationship. It shouldnā€™t mean much especially if this tracks with his previous behavior.

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It depends. My bf & I have never posted each other but I know his intentions & Iā€™ve met all of his friends & family. If your boyfriends intentions are pure, then it doesnā€™t matter

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My boyfriend doesnā€™t post at all. His last post was 3~ years ago. I donā€™t mind it, since I donā€™t post him a lot either. I think it would be a red flag if he posted a ton and didnā€™t include you. I would mention how important it is to you, and it would mean a lot to you, but donā€™t force him too. Talk about what it means to you, and your concerns regarding the fact that he doesnā€™t post about you. His response will tell you whether itā€™s a red flag or not.

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Follow your gut.
Have you met all of his friends? Or family?

Iā€™ve met a lot of his friends, but none of his fam (who all live in the same city as us)

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