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How long have you been together? It took me about 6 months to post my BF at the time bc before I put him on social media I wanted to make sure it was more serious.
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I think it depends what he posts. If he posts a lot of pics of himself and of friends, then maybe a little more odd than if he’s posting a lot of food/scenery/art/memes whatever. Sort of like, how personal is his content?
I think dynamics with family or coworkers who follow someone can be complicated for adding pictures of significant others so I give it a little space.
I don’t have a bf but trust your gut
Ya I do hear you on this 😕
Married for 9 years. My husband doesn’t post anything about us on social media and is all “let’s be happy in private” he posts work stuff and articles. I sometimes feel sad about it then I remind myself that social media is a display window of cherry picked moment that by no mean represent people’s actual life.
I don’t really know what the advice is here. Even after years in a relationship it still really stings. But some men are really not into social media for the social / community aspect. 🤷♀️
I wouldn’t love that ☹️ have you talked to him about it?
“If ain't no ring on my finger, you ain't goin' on my 'Gram”- Cardi B
In all seriousness, in took me a over a year to post, though I am too invested in Instagram. Have you met his friends? To me that is a greater indication how he feels than Instagram.
Hahhaha and yes have met most of his friends
Rising Star
I mean you said he is pretty active on social media, does he post pics/stories with his friends and family, selfies, and things that he does (restaurants, food, etc.) and what not? If yes, then at some point it would be weird if he posts all of this but not you. And if his excuse keeps being “it’s not my thing I never posted GFs” in this scenario it just sounds like a very cheap excuse and ultimately very dismissive of your feelings. I know you two just very recently started an exclusive relationship so if it was me I’d give it a little bit more and see how it goes.
Now if he’s that kind of guy who barely posts anything and when he does it’s a fishing 🎣 pic (lol) or only uses social media to scroll through memes and news etc but barely knows how to even use the app, then ok I guess.
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Took me 6ish months to feel comfortable posting my boyfriend too. I was more nervous about jinxing it, or getting questions from friends I hadn’t caught up with in a while/hadn’t told personally yet, than the reasons you mentioned. That being said, agree with PwC1! If he’s otherwise shady it could be shady.
Help to hear this side, thanks! Otherwise not shady at all so that’s why this surprised me
I think it would be good to understand if a.) he doesn’t post much on social media at all or b.) he is pretty active but doesn’t post / tag pictures with you. My husband barely uses social media and I post enough for the two of us 😅 but if he is of the category b, either he thinks it’s too early or maybe something is suspicious. Either ways go with you gut feeling!
Unfortunately it’s B
Some people like to move in silence. Had a friend who never posted her bf until they were engaged. Only close friends knew she was even taken let alone in a serious relationship. It shouldn’t mean much especially if this tracks with his previous behavior.
It depends. My bf & I have never posted each other but I know his intentions & I’ve met all of his friends & family. If your boyfriends intentions are pure, then it doesn’t matter
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My boyfriend doesn’t post at all. His last post was 3~ years ago. I don’t mind it, since I don’t post him a lot either. I think it would be a red flag if he posted a ton and didn’t include you. I would mention how important it is to you, and it would mean a lot to you, but don’t force him too. Talk about what it means to you, and your concerns regarding the fact that he doesn’t post about you. His response will tell you whether it’s a red flag or not.
Rising Star
Follow your gut.
Have you met all of his friends? Or family?
I’ve met a lot of his friends, but none of his fam (who all live in the same city as us)