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Ambitious, successful, non-troll men don’t need a site like that. If you want a wealthy man to transact with and you’re hot and under 25, just go to a swanky hotel bar in any major city. That’s where the high-end escorts go to meet men.
Enthusiast
I’m 30, but the other associate who told me she’s using it is 35. So while I’m sure a 25 year old would probably get a lot more arrangements, I don’t think being in your 30s forecloses it.
Are the posts referring to matchmakers by any chance? I can see how the confusion could arise, but seeking arrangements is a totally different thing. I have heard some people do fine with a matchmaker, but tbh I would never use one unless I got super desperate, and the men that I have talked to few the same way. Join some clubs or go to networking events- grow your social network organically and not through these artificial services which are IMO worse than your traditional Hinge or Bumble.
Coach
It's going to be mostly old, creepy men pretending to be wealthy and misogynist who don't want a gold digger but date on sugar baby websites... the men on those sites are not looking for ambitious women. Most of them are looking for someone who's the exact opposite who they can financially coerce and control.
Guys like that don’t want a biglaw girl
One, who would want to date a man that either has to use such a website or does so because they’re ruthlessly transactional?
Two, no one is going to fly you out if you’re going to be working on a brief or signing. The last thing the men on those sites want is someone smart enough to get through law school and the bar exam.
lol that site is full of cheating men looking for discretion and older (or ugly) dudes looking to hook up with girls out of their league. They also usually want someone with availability and a freer spirit than an office drone. You’re much more likely to find an equal through social hobbies and mutual friends
My ex used it,while we were dating. Not a fan of her personally lol
lol honey, recruiters are to biglaw ladies what seeking arrangements are to sugar babies
Mentor
I used it in law school. It was a fine experience but not conducive to finding something meaningful. It was mainly men who were looking to use money to date out of their league and/or were married. I think I only ever found one man I was actually attracted to (married), and so gave up on it. Im single now but wouldn’t bother trying it again because it just isn’t meant for successful women looking for an equal partner.
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Coach
Uggfff, people already say such horrible things about female lawyers. We don't need this PR.
unless you are a senior or partner, i would hesitate before you call yourself ambitious/successful. biglaw isn't really that elevated, especially in nyc.
Yep, and ime there are proportionally more rich kids in biglaw than IB. Biglaw folks could afford to not work and tuition, IB folks had to make money out the gate
Coach
SA is for predatory and/or lazy men that want young financially helpless women to gift things to, often in exchange for…company. I highly doubt, even if you’re beautiful and interesting, that they would be interested in an attorney in her early 30a.
Way back in 2016 we met on Bumble.
Neither of us were in Biglaw then, but we have both lateraled into Biglaw since then (her in 2018 and me in 2021).
Online dating is going down in usage in favor of in person. Why not date a coworker or former classmate?
Ah. Well every year brings new crop of associates, some of which you may like to date?
I think you would have more luck contacting one of those match makers from the airplane magazine.
Have you tried feeld?
Try my DM's now?
Married with kids but if single I’d give it a shot
Most rich/powerful men aren’t looking to date a slave wage worker 😂 all jokes aside, good luck trying to date in NYC. It’s very difficult
Enthusiast
I’m not in NYC… kinda wish I’m there to at least have a dating pool of people w jobs. At where I’m at, I’m barely meeting anyone w a career.
Subject Expert
What’s an arrangement website? I admit I tried to google this and got a bunch of ads, not sure which sites OP was referring to
Enthusiast
Seeking.com
Coach
Have you tried the League? Idk if it’s still a thing but could be useful for you
Enthusiast
Tried it but when I did back then all I saw in my area are EnTrePreNeurs w no stable jobs 🥲