Do you guys sometimes feel as though you have a lot of friends, and yet none at all?

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All the time. You have all the college friends, friends from the city, and from your firm. At the end of the day it’s so hard to really keep in touch with more than a couple.

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Yep, all the time OP 😕

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Also in NYC, 22 M I have HS, college, and work friends here it's surprising that I would feel this lonely

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I don't know! I don't drink so I can only stand partying for so long, and my friends are all also bankers/consultants so what they mostly do on weekends is... drink I guess. A lot of my good friends are also in long term relationships so I (understandably on their end) see them a lot less... or maybe I'm not as close with people as I've thought. A lot more doubt coming back to this city than I thought I'd have - how do people come to terms with loneliness? This is a me problem I should sort out

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I feel I have one legit girlfriend I can actually confide in who lives near me. Otherwise everyone lives far away or we aren’t as in touch anymore

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I feel really alone even though I have a lot of friends . I am I felt like I have no one to spend tim with - spent the day in bed mostly....

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@A2 I'm in the same boat

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I also feel like no one really cares a lot of times cause everyone is busy in their own lives and getting what they want from work, friends other - I always give and just want someone to be chill and want to hang out and be ourselves - not for social media or selfish reasons to gain something

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That makes a lot of sense; it may be winter blues (SADS or whatever) partially but also a tough situation for you. Do you have any pets?

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Op where r u from. I’m from nj/ny and maybe I’m depressed...idk. 31f here

Oh man that’s young dude. Are you living in the city? I will tell you the city does this to you. I’m not a club type person or partier so it’s like people I would hang out w (low key people) are married or have SOs. Singles are out partying and that makes me more sad. What’s stopping you? Mental thing?

@A2 have things been like this for you for a while, or is this a recent change?

Op recent change I guess but every winter I do get a little down - this one is worse tho. I think part of it is winter coming around. Not on good terms with the SO( he’s long distance so never see him and I’m ready to settle down and thought on same page but he isn’t so I feel like I have no support there) I also don’t drink or party and recently had a car accident so can’t work out much and gained some weight and still can’t engage in lots of active things) I don’t have people to do stuff with cause again it’s winter, busy in their own lives etc. I’m an active outgoing person and I am not doing that right now so I’m just depressed.

No lol my parents don’t want us to have any and it makes sense since I work a lot - I don’t wanna leave the poor guy alone just so I can have cuddles sometimes. Wouldn’t be fair. What about you? What are you doing to chase the blues away. Do you work out or anything?

I try to but work's made it difficult the last week and a half - mostly I look at gifs and funny videos of cats and dogs more often than I should

Social media is the worst tbh; everyone seems to be doing cool/fun things. I've never had fomo until now

I feel you both op / acn2

Sc1 - location, age sex?

Op - social media is the total worst. I do not use it at all. And the news is awful and negative too - feel like the world not going well and no one really cares so apathy is high. I would tell you don’t look at social media at all - try to have phone calls and get out with friends as much as possible. At least more single people your age friend. If you don’t care that I’m a bit older and just looking for a friend, Happy to talk and stuff if it helps us.

I've accepted that I'm gonna be an old cat man and I've grown to like em so not concerned on that front, but it's a good point to get out more for sure. Ya! Would be cool to talk to chill people with a few years under their belt, see what life is like further down the road

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