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"Time for yourself." These words all make sense, just not together.
OP, I didn't intend to dunk on you at all - just gathering context.
This is the new normal, its awesome how involved you are with your kid and family life. Celebrate that fact, but acknowledge that priorities in time usage are going to be shifted away from you for a while.
SP1 - Appreciate your perspective. I have always been incredibly independent, active and social. So this is a hard adjustment for me.
Time to myself is usually at night when everyone's asleep...sometimes I'll go watch a movie, other times I'll go into "duh" mode in front of the tv. Time with friends nowadays are at their (or my) kids' birthday parties.
I started going to gym at 5:45 to 6:30 2 or 3 times a week. Not tons of time, but it’s what I do to be alone
There’s not any secrets- we all get 24 hours a day. Sounds like you’re spending 6 hours a day with your fam and only 9 working. That’s pretty unusual for consulting. Enjoy it while it lasts and maybe ask your SO for example to take care of the kid before dinner- that would give you a little extra time
Toilet time ftw.
Good point here. OP enjoy il the time with the family. It sounds like a grind, but will be worth it. That said, yes take time. Ask SO for help. I hit the gym early in day before kids wake up. 2x per week. I also get out of the house for 1 hr gym time during the weekend when kids don’t have activities. Otherwise, limited additional time with family/ friends :)
I have 4 kids, so I don’t know what time for myself is 😭
Daughter and family time. 9PM - daughter falls asleep. 9PM-10PM (hour I would like to myself some nights) I often don’t get that, or if I do, get attitude from wife. Sat and Sun all family time all day, if I try to golf or do something once, I usually Have to rush it in an hour. I don’t see friends, but I do see family - is this typical for you guys?
How many kids do you have? Sounded like 1 but didn't want to assume.
SP1 - yes 1
So you have a life.
Lucky you
My alone time is the flight to client site. Sad I know but that’s the reality
My time is after everyone is asleep. It plays hell on my energy levels at times, but I need time by myself. Wife gets it. She stopped expecting me to have the same sleep schedule as her years ago.
Sounds like you have a lot of time with your family. Enjoy it!! If you are feeling like something is missing, maybe you can make some adjustments. Can you alternate responsibilities a bit with the wife? Seems like you are doing a lot. She should understand that you need some time for yourself or with friends. Or even a weekend away with buddies. It's also important to spend some good quality time with just you and the wife. Maybe try to do an earlier bedtime for the kids so you can hang out with the wife in the evenings.
I get a day once in a while. Also have been able to do a guys weekend once a year for the past few years. Other than that, time to myself is a.k.a taking a shower