Does anyone have any experience working with a Life Coach/Therapist to help in this industry and just overall? I realize I get in my own way by overthinking and I have trouble executing. Also realizing I doubt myself/ability, so it subconsciously holds me back from implementing things I want to do/achieve. Any recommendation(s) is greatly appreciated!

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For this situation, I recommend Dr. Jan Newman—she’s a former lawyer, now clinical psychologist, and she also does life coaching.


Thanks Sarah!

I am right there with you! So much self-doubt about my abilities/capabilities as a litigator even though I have over 13 years of litigation experience and am amazing at what I do! Crazy what our brains tell us on a seemingly constant basis about how we are not good enough, capable enough, (insert anything self-deprecating) enough. I will offer that I have been in a self-coaching program since the beginning of the pandemic called Self-Coaching Scholars which is a program offered by a company called The Life Coach School and it has helped me TREMENDOUSLY with managing my mind so that I can actually be the amazing attorney I know deep down that I am. Words can't describe the invaluable mental shifts and actual tangible results (way more self-confidence) I have made over the last year working on my thoughts/beliefs about myself and my career as an attorney. Along with that I learned how to stop overeating (by managing my thoughts/emotions) along with other more actionable tools lost a little over 10 lbs!! AND I have kept it off for over 6 months! Crazy amazing! Happy to share any additional info if you would like.


Wow, thank you so much for the shared insight 🙏🏼 truly helpful. I will look into Self-Coaching Scholars and reach out if there is any additional information I want to pick your brain about 💜 I appreciate it!


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