Does anyone here think their spouse makes a great husband/wife but wouldn't make a great parent? Am I weird or crazy for feeling this way?

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Happens all the time. Even those who think their partner will make a great parent end up being very disappointed. If you think so, do NOT reproduce. If it seems that way, it doesn’t “seem it,” it is.

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I'm not so much concerned that he wouldn't be a good parent, but I do feel that it wouldn't be a 50/50 shared responsibility. He also gets very anxious at times, so I would guess he'll freak out and panic when the kid is sick or hurt. But even all that aside, I would still consider having a child together. I'm just cognizant of what I will need to take on given the areas he won't be able to handle.

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When you are perpetually sleep deprived due to working full-time and managing the household 90% of the and childrearing 95% of the time, your feelings will change. You will resent him to the point that you will no longer want to be in the same with him, let alone bed. You will see him as a man-child, not a man.

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Being a great spouse and great parent are interdependent.

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Also true

From mother of 3, even if your husband IS the best dad on earth you would never think he actually is. Mom brain hits different. Nobody is a great parent but yourself. Tested with hundreds of moms.

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Well, isn’t it called a mistress or lover?

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Vice versa in many cases, atleast my case

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