Getting grief from boss for never attending our team social events (dinner parties etc). I don’t enjoy these kinds of events but I’m the only one on the team who feels that way (cont)

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Everyone else is really close (large team). My social confidence just decreases more and more over time. I’m ready to quit entirely as I dread going in to work(seen as aloof). Anyone have advice? I know it’s first world problems but it’s just depressing to be in this position.

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Don't have a solution, but I got a lot of shit last year for not attending the holiday party and was dragged to a few events before. Not fun and I completely get it.

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I feel you OP. I really like my immediate team and will go to events with them but any bigger events involving more teams / the office and I usually try and skip.

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As you move up in PA you’re going to have to be more social and attend these team events. PA is definitely not for the introverted...just wish someone told me that when I was in college

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Time to look for a new team IMO

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