Got offered a great position across the country. My girlfriend just got accepted into med school so she’s pretty much tied down here. Job or relationship?

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Food for thought: with her in med school and you starting a new job in finance, how much time would you really have for each other in the same city?

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^^this. Being apart would allow you each to focus on what you're doing and see each other when it makes sense. I know lots of people who went LDR for job/school reasons and many of them ended up together- it's not hopeless.

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Depends on what the relationship needs. Some require physical presence and then it depends how long you've been together too. Remember that some of the most successful people in the world would give anything to find that match of a romantic partner. Career is impt too but if you're in NYC - there are many job opportunities.

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Time to take a call on serious/not serious. If it's serious then you guys will find a way to make it work. Speaking from experience here, all it takes is a few minutes of extra effort. Assuming you are still young in your profession, don't make decisions that can potentially turn to career regrets later.

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Chose a job over a 5 yr girlfriend...regret it everyday....although, I probably would've regretted not taking the job too

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You make $$ you guys can travel and see each other on weekends. Agree with the post if it's serious you'll make it work if not then this is your perfect excuse..

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Serious LDR question, but how often can you reasonably expect to travel and see each other if working in IBD?

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I'm in the situation now and we travel to see each other at least twice a month (in IBD). Talk on the phone and all that when we have time. If it's strong it'll work if not yep you're in trouble. Most of the year flights are pretty cheap and as long as you have remote access you can usually do what you gotta do remotely and worst case scenario you book a flight back.. Has never happened to me

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Take the opportunity first. You'll always find a girl, unless what you are doing is not your true passion..

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