Setting healthy boundaries with family is HARD. Specifically a family that suppresses emotions, gets defensive, won’t talk out conflict, tons of gaslighting.

It’s so hard to stay connected when I’m so misunderstood and disrespected constantly. It’s never huge, but a constant 3-4 out of 10 no matter the day. We never talk about anything.

I’m just so exhausted trying to make it work with them. I don’t have many friends (hey pandemic) and it’s so, so lonely.

How do you balance your social life with work? I feel like all my non-law friends are out doing shit every night and living it up on the weekends and I just can't. I'm either working or I'm tired from working. How can I set better boundaries about working outside of work, and where do y'all get the motivation to be outside after work 😭

I am an unmarried working man in his 30s with a southern mother. In other words I'm flying home for Christmas and my mother just called to tell me that she just happened to accidentally run into the sweetest girl from her church that she just knows I'll get along with and accidentally invited her to our house for dinner the night that I get home. Deadass the woman will not rest until I am tied down. Pray for me!

How do I deal with a parent who has become bitter and shrewd as they age? It’s exhausting and disheartening to be around because they used to be positive and happy. I’d like to help them be positive again but also want to give them space to feel how they feel. I just want them old version of my parent back 😞

Do you ever wish you could just go home at 6, play with your kids till they fall asleep, and then have a glass of wine with your wife before an early bedtime & sleep 8 hours?

Been with my GF since college and we recently hit the 4 year mark. 1-2 years into our relationship I found out she had instances of micro-cheating (flirting with guys, talking to ex’s etc - but nothing physical) and we addressed it. To her credit and my knowledge, she’s been apologetic and great at respecting boundaries since, but I still feel the pain from her actions years ago (and have talked to her about it). Feeling lost about whether to just leave or to try and work things out

I don't have any friends in banglore. It is hard for me to find friends cause i am always that aloof kid who in addition is not straight so can't even bond with my teammates. How do people live like this. Even my flatmates don't talk . : (

Curious what % of partners/MDs have spouses who also work. And regardless of non/working spouse, what do you do to feel a work/family balance?

Well...I've finally made it in my marriage when we are reading each other's minds.

Recommendations on an exceptional career coach who can help my husband? He works with his brother at a startup his brother founded (my husband is in-house counsel) but often finds himself belittled by his brother, cut out of conference calls and emails and generally feeling like he has no skills. He's an ivy league graduate and went to a great law school but for many reasons cannot leave this job right now. Looking for someone to help w/his confidence level and ways to approach his brother. TIA!

How do I deal with minimal support from our principal when it comes to dealing with parents?

How do you handle people’s kids showing up on video meetings? Screaming, kicking, hamming it up, (wasting time.) Everyone else is coo-ing…I’m not a kids person. Heard a technique which is to drop off the call bc you “assume the call is over” (which seems like a great way to get fired especially if it’s a way higher up’s kids - plus it feels rather passive aggressive.) Thoughts?

Does anyone here have OCD or have a partner with OCD? My spouse has severe contamination OCD and I struggle with how best to support, but not enable them... any tips?

Perspective: monogamy is anti-human nature; in this era where each parent could raise a kid independently, marriage tends to be a shackle on many aspects of life. We live once, why does society expect us to live with 1 person for 60+ years? No wonder divorce rates are through the roof!

How do you and your partner (married or not married) split financials?

Do you share details about raises/bonuses/other financial gains with friends or do you keep it to yourself? I have a few friends who will tell me everything from how much money they make to how much their husband spent on them for their bdays to how much their parents make?? To me that feels like bragging/being arrogant. It’s also the way they say it, feels very much like seeking validation to me.

Hey guys, planning to shift to Kolkata on 1-Aug-22.

Please guide me on best place/area to reside with small family.
I am coming from Hyderabad with family and a pet dog and looking forward to a good society with amenities.

Thanks!!

Boyfriend and I have been fighting a lot for a while. He broke up with me, but then we decided to try to make it work after we talked. I don’t want to end my relationship. Any ideas how to save and salvage a relationship on the bricks of ending

Can someone tell me how much time it takes for an official offer letter to be released after a salary negotiation interview in MS?

Which of the two contributes more revenue YOY then the other? New Clients or Existing Customers?

So I used to work for this shady Series A funded startup in Mumbai. Our CEO was a drug addict who funnelled money back to a lobbyist on the VC side. They paid INR 1.2 Crores for their logo to a "creative agency", just one of the many dodgy expenses they made including multiple so-called official trips to exotic locations like Hawaii. Till date their SAAS product has not found a single buyer. The CEO's girlfriend was the Sales Director whose job was to wear skimpy dresses for business meetings.

Any Rolex AD recommendations/connects in Miami area? Tyia

Hello All,

Can anyone refer me in active directory domain.
I'm already serving my notice period with a week left. Ready to join immediate.


Thanks

Anyone working in appdynamics??

I’m starting at VMLY&R on account side and was asked if I want a PC or Mac. Not trying to be the odd one out - what do most account folks have?

Anyone joining Pune Location as DATA ANALYST in July or August ? let's connect

Does wipro provides car parking to employees in Gurgaon cyber city office??

Hi Fishes.. Does Barclays offer any Diwali gifts ? Just curious to know 😄

Someone from ServiceNow available here? How's the job security?

Can someone help me with the ServiceNow ITSM dumps?

Parking should really be reimbursed! Especially when its $20 a day.

Anyone into photography? Looking for friends to get some outdoor shoots with!

Anyone in DFW want to do something?

What are y’all thinking about Kanye West/Ye?
Adidas following others dropped him today for his consistent anti-Jewish stance.

Are your students talking about it?

Can we go to any other Capgemini office temporarily if our base officer location is different.

Been with my GF since college and we recently hit the 4 year mark. 1-2 years into our relationship I found out she had instances of micro-cheating (flirting with guys, talking to ex’s etc - but nothing physical) and we addressed it. To her credit and my knowledge, she’s been apologetic and great at respecting boundaries since, but I still feel the pain from her actions years ago (and have talked to her about it). Feeling lost about whether to just leave or to try and work things out

What's a good show to watch on Netflix? Need rec's before Peaky Blinders comes back on. Thx

Just finished Ozark, so any shows of that type would be great.

I hate billing. That’s it. That’s the post

I wanna go home 😫

Motivation to work: non existent. 🙂🙃

Well...I've finally made it in my marriage when we are reading each other's minds.

I feel like my employer thinks I’m losing my shit.

I started traveling while working remote and fell in love with the mountains. I’m now applying to be a full time remote employee and fear they won’t approve it.

I feel like I have to defend that I’ve found more in life that makes me happy than just work.

How do I pitch that I need to live elsewhere for my happiness and not near an office?

My LinkedIn feed was absolutely filled with layoffs today. What happened? A month or two ago it was a candidate’s market and the offers were great but now everything has shifted. I was informed that I am not getting a promotion that I was gunning for, and when I pushed back about being fairly compensated for my work the response about it not being a good time to ask was really ominous. Anyone else feeling bummed?

I know absolutely nothing about football (or any other sports). I’m up $360 on super bowl bets. Spent the second half of the game watching a drag show. 🤷🏼‍♂️

Hi 👋. I posted here a few weeks ago about being nervous conducting a PIP conversation with my team member.
I did it this week and let me just say it was the weirdest conversation ever. The guy is usually argumentative and tries to disprove every bit of feedback. But this time he just sat there and asked no questions and said nothing.
Maybe he’s looking for new jobs already - don’t mind this at all and this would be a good outcome for him overall.

Does anyone else feel bad or guilty when they don’t have something delivered on time not because of yourself but client and external delays?

I hate it when I'm shopping for dresses and I see one that's really cute, only to find out it's a romper

any avid readers? genres you enjoy & its corresponding book?

Love how BS credit score is. Got my score up to 800 last month only to go on vacation so my credit utilization went up to 8% due to the increased spending and my score dropped 35 points because I didn’t immediately pay the balance after charging the purchases. I always pay my balance in full each month and have never missed a payment, how is 8% credit utilization determined to be that big of a risk that my score got immediately wrecked, I don’t understand

Perspective: monogamy is anti-human nature; in this era where each parent could raise a kid independently, marriage tends to be a shackle on many aspects of life. We live once, why does society expect us to live with 1 person for 60+ years? No wonder divorce rates are through the roof!

I love my job, but feel like it was a slap in the face that we hit $2Billion in revenue this year, yet our benefits are sparse.

So who is this SEI and why is everybody arguing with him/her? 😂

Cant wait until baseball disappears forever. Boring, perfomance-enhancing sus af 69inning havinazz sleeping pill of a sport; the most boringazz sport in the history of exxxistence itself. Shiets like big pharma, putting the whole of humanity to zzzzzz good god I hope god deletes baseball even tho I dun believe god exists but truth is the real thing that shouldn't exist is baseball fuk

Do you share details about raises/bonuses/other financial gains with friends or do you keep it to yourself? I have a few friends who will tell me everything from how much money they make to how much their husband spent on them for their bdays to how much their parents make?? To me that feels like bragging/being arrogant. It’s also the way they say it, feels very much like seeking validation to me.