Had a baby 20 months ago. Interest in sex is non existent and I feel weird when husband grabs my boobs - even if I stopped breastfeeding some months ago. Will I ever be normal again 😳

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It was slow for me. Boob touching made my skin crawl for, honestly, a few years after breastfeeding. And my libido never really came back. I just do the sex and end up enjoying it. But wanting sex? Never. Although this could just be because I’ve been eating the same cake for 10 years.

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Same and don’t dare touch my boobs! 😂

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Yes you will. I went through this and it did pass. I’m back to my lusty self now.

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Anything in particular help you get your groove back?

Sorry I didn’t elaborate more last night. It did take awhile, about 3 years till I was fully back to myself. I was so repulsed by having my breasts touched during the first year and it will kill the mood for me. Till this day (my child is 6) I have to be REALLY into it to give my husband the ok to go all out with the ladies (sorry for the TMI). But I just kept focusing on the intimacy and then the lusty part of the equation eventually came back. I think pregnancy really changes your view of your body and you have to be patient through that process. I hope this helps.

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It’s normal. You go from seeing your body as a functional thing that gives life to your baby. And then someone is thinking about it sexually which you may have stopped for a beat. Also bc our bodies don’t feel and look the same and bc social media tells us we’re supposed to look a certain way and movies tell us we’re supposed to feel a certain way, it all feels off. So the “recovery” to normal takes a while and is normal. Some can’t wait to get back to it. And for some (like me) I wasn’t ready. And honestly it coulda been hormones too

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I had the same problem—my little one is 21 months. What helped me was an app called Dipsea. It’s a monthly subscription to audio stories that can get the juices flowing. I started the free trial but loved it so now I subscribe. Worth every penny. They have some guided solo sessions that you can just do alone to get back in touch with yourself. Good luck!

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Will check it out. Thanks!

It can take a long time to feel “normal”—and we’re all under all this extra stress from quarantine and working from home and childcare. Have you talked to your OBGYN? They might have some solutions to help with managing hormones and stress. If you are on birth control, consider trying a different brand.

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Totally- the added stress does not help (and seeing him 24/7) 😂 im not on BC but using condoms (sorry tmi) which now that you mention is also a buzz kill when i happen to find a bit of energy to engage in anything sexy

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