Has anyone ever had to become boss of work friend(s)? Particularly in a context where they think it makes no sense and are mad about it? Any tips?

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Yes, they weren’t mad about it tho. If they don’t support you then are they really your friend? I wouldn’t consider them a true friend in that instance. Move forward and focus on yourself and your growth. Keep things as professional as possible.

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I guess they are frustrated that they haven’t been given the same opportunity. In fact it’s hard for me to understand why it’s happened (big imposter syndrome), and I’ve voiced it to both my boss & them. But I guess now it’s time to focus as you say and prove my worth 😊

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When I was in my 20s, this happened to me.  I was angry because someone became my boss that was my friend and he told me you have Fri - Sun hours to pout. Then you have to come back and be decent so we could stay friends and work together.  It worked out well.

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Love this one!!!!!

1. A real friend will support you. 2. Show them what's in it for them. 3. Your manager needs to support you. 4. I've seen someone report to their close friend and I myself said they need to be separated so the more junior person could have their own identity and new experiences. Depending on the size of your team, work with your peers so your friend doesn't only have projects with you.

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The benefits they'll have by you being their manager. Examples: Someone speaking positively to others in leadership, staffing them on things you know they'd enjoy, helping them get to where you are because you know how to do it

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Not me but this happened to two of my friend. The friend left the company quickly but they’ve stayed friends for a few more years.

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I haven't been their direct performance manager, but I have had to give project feedback after being promoted on a faster timeline. Not sure if it would work for you but I just had lunch with my friends, acknowledged it was awkward, and just said my boss expects me to treat everyone the same so that's what I'm going to do. It was fine for the most part, and when one of them was resistant to some of my feedback, my boss 100% reinforced it and had my back which helped.

If you do get pushback, I'd try to address it once with your friends but then quickly let your manager know you might need help so it doesn't get out of hand.

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It happened to me but you can show yourself as approachable and build trust with them. Look for ways to further develop them and search for opportunities for them.

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I was in that position. It was rough. If the hiring team would share why you were picked over the friend, it might give you some framework to assist with this person moving up.

At the time, my boss had a meeting with the team (without me in the room) to talk about the changes and if they had any questions.

Then I had a one on one type meeting with them and set the boundaries.

It helped with the transition. But I have learned when someone gets stuck when it comes to change, it’s because too much is going on with work and outside of work. They are looking for things to make sense and potentially be in their sphere of control.

The last 3 years of constant change (aka 2020)

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Thanks for your suggestions ❤️

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