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I’d rather quit than revise this agreement.
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Sounds like a conversation you should have with him, not a bunch of nerds online.
For what it’s worth, when I (~180k year)was working 70-80 hours, my wife (100k/year) did more of the housework, when she’s works 60+ hours and is very busy, I do it. If we both are working that, we agree to pay for a cleaner for a week or two.
Incomes dont realllllyyy come into it for us. We treat our incomes as a bucket and we treat our responsibilities as a bucket, and we just get through them together.
This is the way.
Marriages are challenging enough when two people are involved. Inviting a bunch of internet randos into you financial discussions is a suboptimal move.
Lmao a lot of responses from women are like these when it shows women in not a great light.
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OP, this has got to be satire. Right?
I live in a world where my wife says “Your money my money and my money my money” so I don’t know if there is a solution to this. 🥲
This is as it should be.
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If you need/want help, then ask for it. You don’t need to use your income as justification.
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Combine finances. Be a true team.
I make 2.5x my wife and have combined finances. We’ve never had issues. I’ve never understood why people split hairs like that. The people I know who don’t combine finances actually have more issues.
Get out of consulting mindset, this is your marriage not sprint 3 of your project. You are not going to receive a high performer reward or bonus from anyone. If you have too much on your plate - talk and ask for help. As a family manage finances together don’t compare quantitative aspects - all it creates is only stress. Life is short - share- care and love !
Been married over 15 years. Always have made 40-50% more than my wife. Always have had combined finances. Works great if there is trust.
Doesn’t sound like a marriage, it sounds more like a commercial agreement.
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Combined finances solves this. Earmark and equal amount for each person to have a personal fun money account, hit all your targets and pay bills together. Splitting hairs feels like a recipe to fight more, hide money, etc.
Disclaimer: I know separate money works for others just fine, totally just my perspective and what has worked for my SO and I.
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And bonus: if you have a joint account, and he makes more, he’s automatically contributing more towards joint bills, savings, so that kind of solves your problem.
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A lasting marriage is not transactional.
- 24 years
My wife makes less than 10% of what I make . But all our cash, cards and investments are jointly owned and operated . There has never been a "my money" or "your money" conversation between us in 20 years .
I am aware that it doesn't work that way in all families , but it does help avoid one point of friction in the relationship
Every successful marriage is enabled through smart PMO that ensures transparency on roles and responsibilities, clear milestones and KPIs, regular updates on progress but also risks and mitigation, and of course financial updates in a regular cadence - ensuring the right rhythm and momentum.
Stop counting what money is coming from who and for what. You’re married, a team, act like it.
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Need a third roommate?
I don’t understand. He is a MAN, a whole husband! He should pay ALL the bills, that is HIS job! You only split bills with roommates. The money you make is your money to play with and save (self care, vacations, savings, etc.) Please stop this.
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I’m going to throw out a wild idea. OP has an issue, and maybe they and their SO need to solve it in a way that’s best for their relationship, regardless of whatever K5 is saying. This idea that couples can’t solve their issues in a way that fits their life vs. worrying about things external to their life is just silly.
Don't put money above relationship.
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We combine finances. Takes the questions out of it. You are a team after marriage. The how should we divide stuff is juvenile
You two are a partnership. Both of you should do whatever it takes for both of you to succeed