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Hear me out, document all of this, start looking for another job and interviewing. Report what’s happening to HR and deem it a hostile work environment. They may investigate and you may be severed but it would be put in the person’s file if they stay at the company. You want to have your ducks in a row with interviews and potentially another offer.
I.lm going through the same thing. My coworker is literally a terrorist. It’s like high school all over again, she’s a bully and she’s so dumb it makes no sense
Tell them this is discrimination and not a joke. Go to HR and file formal complaint
Some people honestly do not realize they’re doing what they’re doing others yeah it could be some form of jealousy or harassment. That said… Have you talked to this person? Have you said “your jokes make me uncomfortable?” “You’re not my boss and I get paid to do my job so if I have questions or need help I’ll ask you”
File the bullying complaint to your boss, and if your boss does nothing, send it to HR
Have a 1-on-1 conversation with her, maybe over coffee. Connect first then share what you feel. Maybe she doesn't know that she is doing it. Document these instances. If nothing changes even after talking to her, then bring it up to your manager again. And if your manager is still not supportive, then maybe change team if you can. You would want to work in an environment where you are comfortable and supported.
I agree! I had a similar situation and I addressed the person directly. She was very aware of what she was doing but thought I would continue to deal with the disrespect. I let her know that I was there to support her and would appreciate the same so that we could create a cohesive environment. It took a while but we were eventually able to work well together. If that doesn’t work, then it’s definitely time to move on to a place where you are welcomed and supported.
Here’s the piece that’s getting missed in this scenario, if she’s making you look bad in front of your peers or coworkers, and they’re laughing about it, they are just as guilty as she is. This isn’t just on her and if nobody saying anything to her about her behavior again, they are just as guilty as creating a hostile working environment as she is. When you document this stuff, make sure you document all the names and the behaviors when the scenarios happen. You may not know that somebody’s going to her to say this isn’t right, but if it continues, you can bet nobody’s going to her.
Hi!
Sorry to hear about your experience.
This is what I´d do:
I would have a chat with that coworker telling her how those jokes make me feel, telling her how I dont appreciate such behaviour and asking her to stop (in a nice yet firm way). I would potentially also ask what’s the point of making those jokes? What’s her intention behind?
In case nothing changes after I have had that chat with her, I would schedule a meeting with my Manager that is focused specifically to that topic.
In the meeting I would focus on the facts, behaviour that has been going on and how I feel about that. I would say that I have spoken to my coworker and nothing changed. I would also remind the Manager that I’ve told them about my challenge before and nothing haas been done. I would be very clear about how I need my Managers support, suggest some ideas and ask what they’re planning to do about it. I would want to have a concrete answer and plan of action.
In case nothing changes even after that, I would involve HR and the person who my Manager reports to.
In all this - it’s important to keep in mind to remain professional and yet firm about your requests.
Wish you all the best!
Coach
And after all of this, find another job and report this company to the EEOC.
Respond to her comments not as jokes but as real feedback. Be very direct and ask what she means in public, when and where she makes the. Make her spell it out, ask follow up questions. Ask for specific advice and then repeat it back to her
So if she makes a joke about what you are wearing, ask if it is within the dress code. If not, how can you get inline with policy? If it is, why is she commenting...is there a concern she isn't voicing? Can she come over to help you look at your wardrobe to make better selections in the future? Would she go shopping with you this weekend?
If you keep the tone lightly concerned and don't let it go too easily she'll get confused and leave you alone
You can hotline the coworker posing as a third party. Do it next time she embarrasses you in front of a group.