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On your first day schedule yourself a buffer between daycare drop/nanny handoff and your workday. Ideally you get 30 min to be emotional and go get a hot coffee somewhere. Also ideally you go back to work on like a Thursday so it’s a short and easy week. Meal prep if you can or plan on takeout to make the first few evenings easy.
I think the first question is do you 'have to'? Lots of people are able to make life choices/cut back to accommodate staying home with their kids either all the time or some of the time. (I was able to take a 60% schedule when I had my first. We stayed in a smaller house. It's been 100% worth it. But I realize not everyone has that option or can afford it.) If you truly cannot though, or if the truth is that you don't want to, then just work on a routine that feels good to you. Make sure you have happy mornings and quality evenings and weekends. Someone told me one to 'be where your feet are" - as in, be mentally present.
Outsource, shuffle, or drop as much as you can so you can spend the hours that your baby is at home with them. It helps a lot with the mom guilt. I have a monthly cleaner and I cook way less now and bulk cook more. I also started waking up at 6 to do some yoga and shower before my son gets up at 7 so we can spend quality time together before daycare. I also put blocks on my calendar at work before 8am and between 4:30pm and 7pm for family time and fiercely protect that time. Also be gentle with yourself about things like pumping. I pumped max twice during the workday, topped up with formula in the same pitcher and poured out bottles for my baby for the next day from that. Usually that was enough to get him 60-80% breast milk in every bottle and I didn’t stress about pumping more than that. I had an au pair so I started my kiddo in daycare at 18 months and he LOVES it which I didn’t expect and it makes my heart so glad. They get lots of developmental and sensory opportunities so you’re giving them new experiences to enjoy while you contribute to your family’s financial stability! It will be ok and it’s ok to feel sad about it too. I wish the US had longer family leave policies 💔