How can I get one of my coworkers to stop apologizing before they make any comment or possible feedback that may come off as a critique? I’m an analyst, so they aren’t trying to suck up or anything :(

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“I’m trying to learn and appreciate your feedback. Please don’t feel like you need to apologize for it.”

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Tell them

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Tell him to use this strategy - praise and then suggest - “ you did a good job with the presentation. I would like to suggest some improvements which you can consider if it makes sense”

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Check if the guy/girl is Canadian.. if yes, then you are out of luck here

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Tell them you are appreciative of the feedback - make sure they realize you realize it’s good for you

You should apologize back and then provide constructive feedback :)

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