How do I get out of the trap of the never ending suggestions of places to eat / drink? I’m 100% flexible and will eat anywhere and do anything. I will agree to the first suggestion. But I’m always pressured into suggesting 10 options only for her to reject them all and give no feedback on what she’s looking for. I feel in this scenario it should just be her picking what she wants.

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“You’ll never guess where I want to get dinner from tonight” and let her guess and then just say yes to her first guess…

If that doesn’t work, maybe you’re giving too many choices… start with 2 or see if you can narrow it down to a cuisine first

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I like to throw out a couple of options with a “open to your suggestions if you’d prefer something else”.

If someone’s shooting down those options without suggesting an alternative, it signals to me we wouldn’t be a match long term and I move on.

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It should start with the type of food you want to eat that day, then how far you feel like driving to get to a restaurant, and if you even like the setup of the restaurant itself. There are many factors involved, and you definitely get to have a say. You shouldn’t be pressured into options that you didn’t choose, especially after being asked for a list of options that reflects your preferences.

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Is this the biggest problem in your relationship? Maybe you should move to a town with one traffic light and a single restaurant.

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Was she in a previous relationship where she always had to make the decisions ?

Pick the place yourself. Don’t make others do it for you. Take charge. Own it. Just pick one. Take it or leave it.

Stop suggesting 10 options, suggest 2-3. Or ask ‘are you feeling Indian or Italian?’

Is this someone you’re in a long term relationship with? Then you should know the types of places they like to go. Have a few regular places and then another rotation of other options

Or download Restaurant Roulette app

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