How do you handle abrasive and condescending coworkers?

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Deal with it diplomatically for now especially if they are more senior. When economic times are better, then you can be in a better position to confront them.

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Maybe you’re the abrasive one and they are reacting. Who knows?

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Kill em with kindness

Note specific examples of the behavior. Then note how something should've been expressed that would be more professional. Start a private conversation with them about it and see if they're open to the feedback.

Or you know, remember that LOOP is open all year this PY. Maybe you aren't the only one and they may listen if there's a pattern.

This person gets really defensive. Honestly never encountered this issue before.

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