How do you know if you’re attractive?

I feel that in order to level up you need to be accepted by the 'inner circle'. I'm not so good as 'playing the game' when it comes to 'banter' in order to please people...is being the best at my role not enough?

Any 35+ male 🐠 want to chat and see where things go? 33F in a smaller East Coast US city but very willing to travel to meet in person if we actually hit it off.

I gained weight during my last relationship (probably around 30 lbs, and I’m 5’9”). Before my relationship, I felt like I could get any guy. But I’ve been single for 2 years now and it’s been so hard to date. I’m not sure if maybe I’ve lost confidence, but I legitimately don’t know how to get a guy to be interested. Any pointers?

who's still up and wants to chat? banter? whatever

FaceTime date 👀

32 M in the Bay Area and bored in quarantine. Any F looking to chat?

A few months ago I totally blew a third date with a guy I really liked during a completely hellish period where I was billing 200+ hrs each month. Would it be weird to text him again now?

Any people looking to date in Atlanta ? 40 F

How do you actually find a decent person to date when you’re working 80+ consulting hours? Like seriously...everyone I know who recently got engaged or married had been long term dating since high school or college. What has worked for people?

Someone teach me how to flirt! How do I let this guy know I’m into him?

Any good drinks spots for a date night? Something with a frozen fruit drink or craft cocktails?

I need advice. I met an amazing guy on a dating app. We talked for 4 months and most of the convo was sexual. I fell so hard for him and it was because when we met up in person he was so kind, caring, and respectful towards me. He never initiated conversation with me first, but if I messaged him, he would respond back immediately. Then after 4 months he ghosted me on the app we were talking on. I texted him and he told me he had a gf. I am completely heartbroken. What kind of behavior was this?

Any 🐠es interested in having a meet up this month?

Hi, anyibe up for a chat?

My natural instinct is to assume rejection if I have conflict with a partner or don’t think my feelings are reciprocated. I’ll try to bring it up with them, but I’ll say “if you want to end this feel free” so it doesn’t hurt me (and they can say what they really mean instead of sugarcoating). Someone told me today that they just assume I’m not interested because I always seem to “run” but I’m not sure how to bring up problems/feelings otherwise. How do you approach these hard questions?

Lots of us are skilled at delivery but most sales books seem to focus on the pitch and closing... What are your best resources for learning to develop and nurture strong, lasting client relationships?

I had a Big4 joke for you but the people who are really good at telling it are being laid off due to “performance” reasons. 🤭

Told a friend of mine in tech I was considering moving to BCG. He asked me if I would have to move to Boston.

I followed up by asking what he thought the top consulting firms were. "I'd guess PwC and then McKinsey are the best. I've also heard of KPMG, Deloitte, and Bain, but I don't know much about them."

Just a reminder that outside our bubble no-one really cares about firm prestige etc.

What would be the best method to transition from a financial advisory role to a more financial analyst focused position? Is this type of move unheard of/too difficult to do?

You’re either not valuable to your company and/or your job isnt that important if you’re able to take PTO and not at least send some e-mails.

Nyc based. Is it at all possible to make at least 200 base in corp dev or strategy at a tech company? Super burned out but don’t want to take a paycut in base. I realize I’ll never make all in comp the same in tech but if I can match base I’d be content.

Hi! I'm technically an AD but have found myself working in so many production roles as my work and really digging it all. I would love to talk to someone about all this production. Anyone down to chat about the production life?

PwC CMAAS or A&M?

Looking for a change. Can someone help
Role- PD
Exp- 4 years
Expertise - Ops, Training, L&D, Superannuation, Shared Services.

Need it on an urgent basis

Hello IBMers,
IBM has offered me X amount ctc and i accepted it on portal....now got to know that market valuation for 10.3 yoe is greater than offered ctc....can i ask HR to increase the ctc and change the band...will they consider it?...not holding any counter offer as of now

I have been working with @Apisero from last 2 years. My current CTC is 8 LPA. How much increment should I expect/demand in this Hike Cycle?

Those who joined @Apisero recently with similar YOE. How much CTC was offered to you for Senior Software Engineer position.

Thank you!

When is a 3 page resume acceptable?

Opinions regarding the transition from a legal non-profit to a private law firm?

Please help me to get 11 likes to enable DM.
Thanks in advance.

Hi everyone I have interviewed for a product based company on Wednesday 2nd Feb next day I called HR he said that it’s most probably a positive feedback after that I haven’t received any call or email from HR team how many days should I wait and should I contact them ?

Guys what are the option to think of if I am planning to move out from EY .I work for Tax support (PAS-CES ) not sure which domain to apply if I am planning to move from EY. I'm worked for 2.6 yrs and my take home salary is just 24-27K , so I was thinking if I should think of a job change if so please advice me on which firms and domain to apply .-Thanks in advance

Anyone else feel they have less responsibility after exiting consulting? I used to be in the room with C suite, did many board presentations etc. Now my TC is double and I’m dealing with mid-management and have less stimulating work.

Hi folks,
My exp is around 9 years and working in the telecomm domain for the entire time.
I want to switch to data science or data analyst domain now.
Is it possible?

If possible then what certification would help me?

Therapy Scheduling Issues - I love my therapist but they are not able to schedule sessions on the weekend or Friday evening and I’ve missed 7/10 last sessions scheduled due to last minute work stuff. I’m sad I’m losing a great therapist. Should I try to make it work or find someone with more scheduling flexibility?

I scream into the void, hoping to be heard.
I stare into the dark, waiting for the dawn.
I find solace whispering to you strangers.
I fight my demons, only to know they prevail.

👿🎃👻 Halloween started early. I was ghosted, again. 👻🎃👿

Happy wife happy life is a really toxic saying. I’m just shocked how this has become the standard saying for men in relationships. I have friends of mine saying this all the time, and I have just thought it’s so cringe and always want to say my thoughts on it but always decide to hold back. However, imagine the saying reversed - happy husband happy life - that would lead to all kinds of uproar. To me happy wife happy life means I need to sacrifice my wants and needs to make my wife happy.

It's true, tis is my confession.
I shower 6 times a day. AMA

This middle schooler told me that smelling nice makes your more eloquent and then sprayed me with something. I don't know what he did but after that I had a weird axe-scent.

Thinking of getting a lovely boob job to complete my aesthetic.

Ladies with a boob job - is it worth it?

I workout a lot I don't want it to hinder me

Also heard scary stories of women getting sicknesses from boob job.

I’m seriously considering eating dinner at 5:30pm. Does that mean I’m officially old??

After ~20-30 min on a call, I stop paying attention.

where my canadians at? how strict is covid there? my friend is in toronto for work and the hotel found out he has covid. now they’re locking him in his room. is that legal? if so, what’s the protocol to break quarantine? hotel wouldn’t answer 🫠

Been questioning my friendship with a group of girls. Really close to them before (been hanging out since high school), but all they do is gossip, shop, and talk about superficial things, and I just started realizing how our interests are different too in the recent years. When is it time to drop the friendship if you feel like the odd one out?

Do men actually like feisty women? Or do you like a more submissive woman? Curious

What is “the 71”?

I have come to the realization that I am more attractive with a mask covering my face 😞

I got into a small argument with my bf about our future and he said something along the lines that he thinks I don’t want this instead I want to want this. We have resolved the core issue which was mainly a misunderstanding but thinking back at it I think he’s right. I do very often feel like i want to want this because he loves me so much but I am not sure I actually want this …

What is the best fruit in this universe?🤔

Chris Stapleton might be a cool guy. Maybe he has some good music. But every time I hear him sing “drive on” during a Ram commercial I want to punch him in the face. Ram has overplayed that one.

Probably the least racy confession on here but I really liked Windows 8 and I'm sad there's nothing like it anymore