How to deal with a new boss who loves mansplaining?

He manages all female direct reports, and has a technical background, but we are a business team that doesn’t manage technical details.

This boss tends to manterrupt, deliver long manologues, and mansplain. E.g. he would suddenly ask a technical question from nowhere and start explaining for 20 minutes, while give no direction on the project.

Have my annual review with him and don’t want to be talked down. Any advice?

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I hate to say this, but manage up, make him feel smart, redirect and then work on getting the f*ck out. I had a boss like that and it was so intolerable…when they are above you, it’s really hard to fight those politics especially with a mansplainer. I tried and it just made the situation worse for me.

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You can’r really change him

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