How to deal with mom/family guilt at the holidays? I'm working a ton this month and I'm missing a family event with my in-laws plus some kid time. I feel terrible about it but I also know that I'll have a ton more time with family in the new year if I can push this month. How do I feel less guilty??

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This is probably not what you wanted to hear, but here goes:

What if you didn’t “push” this year so you can have more time next year? What if you did just enough to still have some spare time and then just repeat that I’m January?

I say this with zero judgement about your choices, but as an alternative to your plan. It sounds like you have some control over the volume of work you need to do, which is why I’m coming from this angle. A lot of the things we think we “have” to do are usually not the hard deadlines we think they are when you probe further. If we set the timelines, we can always adjust them to make more room for the important stuff

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Hey. Just think that next year you're gonna be spending a lot of time with them. Also, you won't have a lot of backlogs to be carried on with you next year. Hope this helps.

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