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NTA. It’s his family and their tradition. It wouldn’t occur to me to pay in this situation, and I am very much a 50/50 person. Is he otherwise focused on money? Is this out of character? Wondering if his parents brought it up to him….
Yup, OP is fine and this whole kerfuffle looks bad for the BF and potentially his whole family.
Your boyfriend is investing in you and your relationship by including you with his family and paying for you often. It sounds like your bf wants to see more of an effort and gratitude from you. How much they make is irrelevant, you can find things within your budget (even treat them to ice cream) or make a dinner at home. It’s the thought that counts, and entirely what’s missing from you.
As far as having dinner too often, you’re an adult and you can communicate if you would prefer to skip this month’s dinner. I don’t think that frequency is too often in my opinion if you’re dating someone seriously. Getting to know the family better would help me determine if this is someone I want to be with long term.
Rising Star
They go 50/50. She pays for him outside of those dinners, as well as when they’re with her parents, so she is investing in him as well.
Sounds like there are a lot of assumptions about what the boyfriend wants or what’s missing from her because we don’t know what the dynamics are other than them seeing the parents for dinner occasionally. Maybe it is just their norm that children pay for their parents, while it isn’t for her. That’s fine.
Enthusiast
Depends on how long it’s been without any offer to pay or help pay.
Dating for 10 months officially
Conversation Starter
He probably just want you to look generous in front of his parents. But maybe he can phrase it better
Enthusiast
Do you ever buy dessert or bring gifts for them? I do think it’s a bit rude to have many free meals and not contribute anything even if you don’t think it’s appropriate for you to pay.
Yes during holidays I made them desserts and cocktails and gave them a Christmas gift.
All those calling her boyfriend a woman. As a woman, I take offense. I am in no way stingy or need my boyfriend to pay for my family. It is true thought I like it when he offers - even if its just for dessert or drinks and not the whole meal.
I think it’s more about the sentiment of offering to pay , vs. actually paying.
Everything doesn’t have to be transactional and data/numbers-driven, most especially relationships.
Yes
Enthusiast
I’d at least choose the venue once (whatever is comfortably within budget for you) and offer to pay. As others have observed, it’s not so much about the money, but the thought/gesture behind it. Also 6 years isn’t a huge age gap lol
Why not split it with your bf when he pays one time
Maybe you could offer to cook dinner for them as your treat?
Take this as humor but it seems fitting
https://youtu.be/T1B_0IIa-AI?si=v2F_fdAIMFbUKTvk
Enthusiast
Oh hell no, girl, that is not your department. This might not be your ideal guy long term.
Pro
Treat to desert or something? If you are planning on long term, these would be your inlaws, no?
Pro
Dessert *
Reverse roles with with him. How would you expect him to show up if it were your parents?