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I gave interview in Amazon and cleared all the rounds , then went on hold and still on hold due to hiring freeze in that departement. HR does respond and update me when reached out.
Interesting thing which happened here is iam cracking each every product based interviews now after my tough preparation for Amazon and getting higher packages than what Amazon would give. So whatever happens , happens for good. Cheers Amazon
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I am leaving JP Morgan next month and have resigned before completing of my 1 year with the firm but technically my year will be completed next month before notice period. The laptop allowance and the relocation allowances will it be recovered from me during my exit??
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Man if I found out the girl I was dating was posting my photo/information to ask strangers if I was lying, that would be an immediate deal-breaker for me. If you don't trust him that much, listen to your gut, but don't do this lol
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If I found out someone put me on one of the sites and I was actually single, that would be the end of the relationship - even if it was months from the fact.
You are all wild thinking this behavior is okay.
To answer your question, yes, there is an AWDTSG for NYC. However, I have really mixed feelings about these groups. These groups were originally created to warn women of truly violent and troubled men (serial cheaters, married men, men not fully divorced lying about their situation). It has morphed into a gossip column and girls are looking for tea / red flags without even going on a date. The reality is, if this guy has lived in NYC for a meaningful amount of time, he’s probably dated other people in that group but what they have to say shouldn’t really matter because it’s in the past. People change, people work on themselves. Focus on how he treats you and makes you feel, vocalize what you want from him and see where it goes.
If you’ve been burned but a similar situation, you’re hyper aware of things that may be red flags but they also may be nothing. It’s 3 dates, you’re not exclusive so it is possible he’s seeing other people, but that doesn’t make you a mistress. You haven’t been able to tell any of the other commenters about what he’s doing that is raising alarm bells which tells me you probably don’t have anything besides your gut (and again, I think you have raised levels of suspicion based on your past). You need to learn to build trust without the comfort of external validation. If you two stay together, it’s just you two in the relationship, not a bunch of strangers from the internet.
It makes more and more sense why her husband would cheat — cheating is often just a symptom and not the cause of a declining marriage. Thank goodness that you clarified upfront that you’re a woman, otherwise you’d be misogynistic, because according to A3, any man who doesn’t agree with her can only be a misogynist, because what other explanation could there possibly be that a man doesn’t agree with her.
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You aren’t exclusive until you have the “talk”. Plus 3 dates is like 3weeks worth of knowing someone if you met once a week. So yea you’re still strangers, and he might be seeing other women.
I think all of the above comments are men who don’t understand the challenges women are facing in NY dating, it’s hard gentlemen. Any women with ideas ?
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Nine times out of ten. A man is hardly ever single. Either he’s in something or looking to replace. Or married. If he disappears nights and weekends. Ask to FaceTime. If he only FaceTimes when he’s running to the store or from his car that’s your answer. They also rarely tell the truth in the beginning. Single until an ex or present woman calls you. It’s part of its new. New also means he’s entertaining a few women. Did you do anything for Christmas & what’s his plan for NYE? If he doesn’t make any. New also means it’s holidays. He might not want to be committed. What are his good qualities?
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If your gut is giving you any negative signals, just end it. Or ask to meet at his place. Or look him up on LinkedIn, look at his friend list, and see if someone else comes up with his last name. Or wait to see if the connection evolves and you meet his friends.
Social media always gives cheaters away, with just a phone # ; these crazy AI algorithms start suggesting people they most interact with and often are in close proximity. The info was served to me on a platter without looking for it.
Lots of triggered ladies. And reminder this is NYC and is no place for monogamous relationship, this is a business a d hustling city. Everybody is fucking at least 3 people at once, at all times.
This sounds psycho (as a woman) if you have a gut feeling; just leave. You won’t ever have peace if you can’t trust the person you are with.
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OP if you are having these thoughts only three dates into knowing someone (prob a month of time) you should end it and move on. Many fish in the sea you will find someone even better.
On another note in 2018 when I was dating I found a women that was great on hinge. We hungout for 3-4 months. About a month in I found it strange she would only be able to hangout on Tuesdays and Sundays also was hard to get in touch with on the other days. Ended up finding out she had a boyfriend she had been dating for 4 years and I was the mistress 😂. Maybe should have mentioned something a month in but didn’t. Was quite awkward getting phone calls from her telling me to ignore calls from her boyfriend and deny.
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Lmao C1 😂. The entire situation was just like???? She also stole a decent amount of my shorts/tshirts. Not sure what she did with them as she had a boyfriend.
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If you’re unsure if he’s single just ditch him?
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Just because he’s single doesn’t meant you’re compatible. You’re not in a relationship with him, he may be dating multiple people as you should be doing to find your best suited partner. Don’t take yourself off the market for a rando you saw 3x.
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Ummmm what is going on in this post!?!
Just date someone else. Why do you think one or a few FB groups are going to give you unequivocal evidence that he’s not married etc. He could have a family in Philly or CT.
Just move on and listen to your gut.
Chica, just trust your gut. Also, I really wouldn’t post someone in the group for this reason.
Lots of triggered, stucky creepy ladies, imagine if a dude goes on to do a full on investigation in the private life and acquaintancs of a lady...stucker alert. And reminder this is NYC and is no place for monogamous relationships, this is a business and hustling city. Everybody is fucking at least 3 people at once, at all times.
What leads you to believe this?
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Did you have a negative experience with AWDTSG NYC?
I’ve seen many men get very positive comments in that group.
Why not just get someone to follow him for awhile, that’s the best way. Also, even if he is not a cheater today, how do you know he will never cheat, there’s a first time for everything
Yes, she is psychotic. But if she really wants to know, then this is the most reliable method.
What on earth does AWDTSG stand for?
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Unsure if you’re memeing
Otherwise, here’s Google
https://www.google.com/search?q=are+we+dating+the+same+guy+nyc&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&hl=en-us&client=safari
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Just here for the comments.
Who says social media can’t be entertaining?
Some good tips in here:
https://www.lovepanky.com/women/understanding-men/is-he-married-or-dating-someone-else
So wait did the FB group not help? Usually lots of ppl get caught on there lol