I am a top, and my husband is a bottom. I never wanted him to f*** me, but now I do. But he doesn't want, we talked about it many times, but I really want it!!!!

Which work-paper is "your baby"

Any folks in ATL here? Down to meet up and generally make new friends

27M

Just lost out on two potential clients because they said they were concerned about how many clients I have. Currently have approx 250 households ( Ed Jones speak for mailing groups). I never thought that was a lot but now I am reevaluating. Curious as to how many relationships you all manage.

Where's all my asian friends at??

Leaving Amazon saved my life. I spent over seven years at the company and after about 6 months I began experiencing a lot of stress-related things like hair falling out, tension in my marriage etc. All that is gone now. I feel so free.

What zodiac do you’ve a love hate relationship with? Mine is Leo.

How practical is living as a single parent in Europe (scotland/Norway)?

Deeply afraid of being married to someone like the girl in sex/life on Netflix

My marriage is beyond repair I think. Husband just said we keep having the same conversations over and over in the past year about things we’ve been trying to fix. Is a year enough time? 11 years together for reference. And I don’t think his statement is true - he literally mentioned one of those things last week that he was happy about. I just can’t do it with these vague statements in arguments.

Thoughts on convincing gf to stay? 27M dating 28F for ~1.5 years. We knew each other in HS and reconnected during the pandemic. Everything was so connected, compatible and hot, and we planned a life together. We thought we met the loves of our lives. We moved to NYC in January. Lost intimacy and connection. She’s unwilling to work on things. Such a genuinely talented and beautiful woman, but has trust issues and depression from being overworked. Thoughts on convincing vs surrendering / leaving?

My fiancé will NOT stop talking about her ex. After I found out they were texting arguing she justified it by saying it was about the dogs and not them. Even though Her social media is full of his pics. She still sends him $50 a month for dog food, still goes to work right by his place and suspiciously needs keys. I try to bring it up and I get dismantled for being too mean and making “false accusations.” How much more obvious can it be?

Has anyone been through a situation that you were in a terrible relationship ( stress,anger, fights, swears, physical abuse, ego clashes) and how did you resolve it? Some might have worked on and stayed in the relationship and some might have broken up. I am looking for answers from both sides. How did you stay/work on it and how did you break up and move on? Me and my partner have strong feelings for eachother and are almost inseparable despite going through so much.

How do I figure out spending with my SO? Initially I was paying for 90% of stuff (no actual bills, just going out). I talked to her and said we need to be more even. She was never proactive. She kind of got offended but we ended on a good note to split things. It went well for a couple weeks but now it's back to normal. She never takes out her card and only venmos me if I send her the request. She lets Venmos sit for weeks before paying them. I still let a lot of things slide.

Trying to be really understanding about coworkers with no children feeling stressed during the holiday season, but it's hard not to ask if they'd prefer to go home to my sick kid, frustrated spouse and dirty house instead of their empty apartment where they have a flat screen TV and a beer waiting. How do you keep sane?

Getting over heartbreak and having a full time job is torture lol. My boyfriend and I just broke up after almost a year of being together. It was such a beautiful relationship but ultimately he just didn’t love me. I love him so much. My mind knows that I deserve reciprocal love and I’m worthy, but I feel physically ill. My body hurts, my stomach is in knots, my head hurts. How is it that I have to mend a broken heart but also meet my billable hours lmao

I just came home sobbing because I got too drunk at my female best friends house and her husbands male friend tried to take advantage of me when we were left alone in a hot tub. My boyfriend didn’t ask if I was okay but instead screamed at me, threw things and left the house. Dumping him is the only logical answer?? Am I crazy?

I've been avoiding breaking up with someone (I've been dating off and on for a year) for the past few weeks because I can't decide the best way to do it. We're not compatible long-term. He's not seeing anyone else and I've told him I'm seeing other people but he's starting to have relationship expectations for me since we reconnected a few months ago. Any tips for having the conversation? I'd prefer to do it via text but I know people say it's not appropriate and it should be over the phone.

Not to get philosophical... but why is life unfair? In both the micro and macro ways? My example - One of my parent’s is somewhat recently deceased, and the loss has made my living parent unstable...

I just started a new job and am about to be 36. I want to start a family but I feel like I should be waiting due to this new job. However I don’t want to miss out. I’m thinking about freezing my eggs

This week, I received a letter in the mail from a Catholic church in SC. So apparently my ex is trying to get our marriage annulled. We have been divorced for 20 years now. The letter said they wanted to ask me general questions about our marriage. I really don't want to talk to anybody about my past relationship with my ex. The letter said they could issue a subpoena to make me comply. Not sure why she is doing this? She remarried and had a child. So not sure what she has to gain by this? Cont.

Are Estate planners very busy during covid? Some have told me they are not and it surprised me.

My back hurts so I’ve been laying on the floor looking at Fishbowl all day instead of doing my job.

Anyone have any good office chair recos for sedentary potatoes that wfh?

I am a newly graduated fresher mechanical engineer working in an electro mechanical company at Dubai, My current salary is 2500 AED, I would like to know about your comments and suggestions regarding my career which could help me through my future ventures.

Do you work on any home engineering projects in your free time? If so, what are you working on at the moment?

Any advice for a young engineer trying to land their very first job out of college?

Anyone read Quit Like a Women, by Holly Whitaker? Reading now and it’s making me consider extending dry January to 6 months, maybe a yr, or ever again...curious to hear if anyone else has read.

Hi Fish,

I have attended an interview with Airbus recently and have passed the technical round. They said the next HR round is expected to be after 9th of August. What should be the salary expectations?

I am currently drawing 12.1 LPA form Accenture with 6 yr exp - 10Lakhs is fixed and rest is variable pay which they never pay. When I see on Quora & Linkedin people are getting 40LPA with same experience in other product companies. What to discus? How much to ask without risking the job offer?

Any Marsh fish willing to refer? I can provide more details in DM. Thanks!!!

Yesterday only during their press meet they told that they have honored all the offer letters last quarter...and today itself you can see so many delaying and postponing of joining cases in this group only....there must be something very wrong or messed up.

Asking for a friend- anyone have advice on getting a travel nursing gig in SD? My friend does hemonc nursing and is looking to move to sd in 2 months. If you know any specific opportunities dm me, thanks!!

Best corporates to join in Toronto after consulting?

How should a future CM looking for their first job build their resume?

Finally a bowl of like-minded people! I love reading but finding it’s so hard to find people to discuss what I read.

Anyone have good books on private capital? Tradtional Private Equity, Venture, Growth, Search - even negotiating in the space. Just interested and looking for audiobooks. Thanks!

I am leaving US, because of no H1B. Why are you?

I'm working in the US under H1B, I got a chance to face an interview for another company. My current company started the PERM application also and results will be out within the next 3 months. Is it okay to transfer my H1B to a new company? Can my H1B transfer be denied? How long will my green card application delay if I move to a new company and start to apply for a green card from scratch?

I have an idea that I think could change the shape and makeup of the industry, and reduce discrimination in the hiring process.

I need to find developers however. Any idea where to look. Self funded

I’m a really good matchmaker. Like...actually really good. I’m thinking about starting a business. Would you consider a matchmaker?

Any 🐠 attending the Pilgrimage Festival in Nashville this weekend?

For those that use Grindr, has their Kindr campaign had any real impact on how you use the app/messages and matches you get?

Thoughts on preferred pronouns in your email signature?

things to do in Vegas? favorite restaurants, hotels, spas, etc?

How’s it like being gay in Singapore?

Anyone in NYC this Thursday eve? Looking to go out and have a fun time. Tips/companions welcome :)

Coz only you could fill this Empty Space Tell me now ....😛

Anyone up ? 😉

Queer life in Hawaii? Anyone have any experiences living there?

Lesbian fish in LA or staffed on a project there? Dranks? 🥂

Anyone doing the fall bowling league in New York?

Being forced onto banking project with no finance background or cultural leanings—tips? 🥴

Can’t wait for Saturday to come so that my date and I can Netflix and chill, then having him sleeping over and I waking up next to him. Miss his warmth and miss giving and receiving cuddles. I like the feeling of having certain people making you behave in a more tender way. I’ve been literally longing for that moment for the week as I’m on a boring PMO case. Romance is not lost between gay guys! :)

Has anyone ever been in a mostly platonic relationship? I don’t like to label myself much, but I don’t really like intimacy and don’t really like romance. Some people would say I’m asexual/aromantic, but unless that too is a spectrum, I don’t think I fit squarely into that group. As I get older, I’m realizing I’m feeling very lonely. It would be nice to find someone, but have it be platonic (any gender/sex). It’s weird, I know. It’s hard to articulate as well. Can anyone relate? 😭😭

I dated someone 15 years older than me and he always lectured me about what did I do wrong. From small things like where to squeeze ketchup on my plate to big things like how to live my life and pivot to a career that his “friends” do so well in right now. Almost everything I did or said he’d follow with some criticism. I ghosted him after another lunch date full of such lectures.

Almost midnight here and I'm cleaning my medicine cabinet so I can reboot having a regular skin-care routine. I'm listening to one of my favorite musicals, "Ragtime", specifically the song "He Wanted to Say". Living 9 time zones away from home out of the US and watching the BLM movement there, unable to do anything concrete about it from here - this song I've listened to countless times, today about brought me to tears.

I really don’t mean this to virtue signal - just wanted to share a moment.