I am in a long term relationship and realizing our compatibility issues aren't getting any better. Basic communication is hard. I am 36 and was really looking forward to making this relationship work. The thought of starting over is keeping me stuck. He is a good guy but we can't seem to be on the same page. Any words of advice?

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Not to be rude, you’re in a long term relationship but are posting in a group of singles looking for relationships? Why are you here? Your actions are proving you want to be single, not that you want to make a relationship work.

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There’s a relationships bowl that may be helpful OP

I’m sorry to tell you this but these things usually don’t get better especially as you add more variables to life

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OP - aside from your partner’s communication issues, how’s your communication style? Is it effective? Do you both hold accountability? It is never just one sided issue in any relationship

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It is one thing to be straightforward, but are you empathetic and respect his perspectives? Or do you outright shut him down when he opens up? There are many factors when you communicate with your partner…

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Why don’t you bring it up to him and tell him how you’ve been feeling? Ask him what he sees for his and your future together???

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OP, You both should be seeking help from a couple's counselor and not from strangers who don't get to see the full picture of your relationship and the communication and other broader issues.

Couples counseling to work on communication issues on both sides (making sure both people speak clearly, and also listen to hear what the other is saying), or break up

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