I applied to B schools and while I got into a school I'm very happy with, another school that was my #1 rejected me outright when I felt I had a great shot. Furthermore, that school was close to both my and my wife's families. So despite the school im attending being better for my career, I can't help but feel that I've let my wife and both of our families down.

This is really starting to eat at me, to the point of having nightmares and waking up anxious. Any tips on how to get over this?...

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There’s so much randomness to the process; it’s likely not you. I know people who have gotten denied from tier 2/3 schools but accepted into HBS. This was also the hardest year to get into school since at least the Great Recession

Also, something you may want to talk about with your wife — I imagine holding this inside is hard

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Thanks D2 - definitely was disappointed by #1, but I understand the randomness is the reality. It's more the burden of feeling like I've let others down and that I can't explain why to them. Its one thing to choose one school over another for reasons xyz, but to feel like I couldn't even give us a shot at being close to family is rough.

And I have, and she's very supportive, happy for me, and does her best to make clear that I didn't let her down. she's also under a lot of stress (she was applying to grad school too, and hasn't gotten any interview invites sadly) so I'm trying to not burden her too much.

Other context that may be helpful:
-my wife has been super supportive and is happy with where we're going, even if the location is "new" which she's always a bit nervous about
-my parents straight up said they were hoping for the #1 school, which really crushed me, but are happy that I'm moving forward with my career
-my wife's family heard about a crime in the city recently and literally told my wife that we shouldn't move there. Wife is on my side thankfully, but my brain is now overthinking it to mean more than it should.

I know its all in my head but I can't seem to knock it and its taking some of the joy out of where I will be going. At this point this is also partially rambling, so thank you for taking the time to read this if you've gotten this far.

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Wait, you got into Columbia but are bummed out about Kellogg? I can tell you off the bat, your exit opportunities and brand name on your resume will be impeccable. I would not even worry about it.

Also, yes crime is slightly on the uptick in the city, but they’re clamping down hard - you’re going to have a fun time over the next few years. Really hope you feel better, Columbia is no small achievement.

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Which school? Sorry, but very curious

Sure: #1 was kellogg, #2 (where I'm going) CBS

I went to CBS over Kellogg and would do it again in a heartbeat! Being in the city will open so many more doors for you and the brand recognition of Columbia is much further reaching!!

New York is perfectly safe and a great and fun place to live.

Why do you care so much about what both tour parents think? Sounds like moving could put some needed distance between you all haha.

In all seriousness I think you’re in a great position and you’ll have a great time at CBS. Wishing you the best!

Totally makes sense. It is too bad you didn’t get the option to be close to them - that must be tough. Feel free to DM me!!

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