I don't want to marry but my parents are not agreeing to that.. how to make them understand and what should I do

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If you can, I would let them know how much it means to you to find the right person and be ready for marriage, and you aren't right now. Try to get them to see that you can't make marriage your priority right now.

Can they force you? If they aren't paying for anything of yours and you live alone/without them, you may just have to hold the boundary even if it doesn't make them happy. You deserve to be happy too.

That is kind of what I was thinking. They can't really just force you

Just because they're your parents doesn't mean they get to decide for you still. It may have been the case then, but you're a functioning adult. You decide for your own. Show them just how well you're doing on your own. Or if that's still not understandable for them, say you're just weighing out your choices so you find the right match for you.

I would just have a very real and authentic conversation with them. Let them know that you are not okay with that and why you are not okay with it. If they want what is best for you, then they will be understanding.

Have you tried talking to them privately? (Without the presence of other family members) Tell them how negatively it will impact you. Stand up for your right to decide for yourself no matter what. I hope this truns out well for you.

Marriage is a serious thing. You do not marry just because your parents tell you to do so. This is so sad. You need to talk to them . Your happiness matters most.

Sorry to thear this OP. It'll be difficult but with time your parents will understand. Ultimately, you are the one who has to live with that so it's your responsibility to do what's best for you even if others don't understand. Theyll come around though, my parents did!

Marriage is a whole lot of things. You don't get married just because of peer or familial pressure. You do you, OP. Whatever you decide for yourself that would make you happy is valid.

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