I had a bad breakdown the other week where I said some rude things to people I care about. I don't know how to fix it. Any advice?

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You get to be imperfect. Sometimes we say things we don’t really mean or shouldn’t say. Tell your loved ones you love them and how you feel.

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It’s okay, give them some time too. You’re trying your best and that’s enough❤️ forgive yourself first

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If it was/is a relationship that’s worth it weight in gold, face it head on… you said some things that your not proud of, and it may have come off as harmful, but you know that’s not who I am as a person, and I hope you can forgive me…

If it was a relationship that was toxic… great, you said what needed to be said, and they should be the ones asking for your forgiveness, not the other way around…

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Listen, it happens… we’re not expected to be perfect all the time… if they’re really your friends/family/loved ones, they should look past it… I can’t imagine that this is the first time they’re discovering that you suffer from anxiety and/or depression… but don’t let it simmer… for some people putting time between the event and the next best conversation can help smooth it over… for others it allows more time for it to stir, which has a net negative effect…

Reevaluate what you said. Write it down in a more respectful way but still getting your point across. Apologize to those you were rude towards (it happens) and rephrase your concerns with them in a calm respectful manner

I've tried but Idk if it's working. :( Idk what else to do.

Apologize, explain your state of mind, know that sometimes it takes time for forgiveness and it is your soul responsibility to proactively take control of your emotions and actions. Toxic behavior is not a crime, but a cry for help.

I know, been there myself (think rage-a-thon fire starter!). Breathing exercises, visualization exercises, and taking a pause here and there really helped.

Your allowed. I wouldn't apologize if you feel you were right. I'd apologize for the delivery but not the words. Accept it or not, I don't care. I'm not one to sugar coat or kiss butt. I tell it like it is and my true friends appreciate that quality in me.

Apologize. Get therapy. Don’t snap any more by not allowing other people to get you to that point in the first place. If you can get a deadline moved, do it. If you can get help on a task, do it. If you can convince someone they don’t need that recap of the meeting that could have been an email, do it. Instead of letting everyone else have every “little” thing they ask for, say no to those and only say yes to important stuff.

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