I have a close friend (more like family) who is a heavy drinker and has been diagnosed with PTSD as a retired Navy veteran. To my knowledge he doesn't seek any additional support, but I know he uses drinking to cope and I'm concerned he's going to unintentionally harm himself or others during a periodic blackout. Does anyone know a tactful way to go about helping him if he doesn't want to help himself?

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Blunt, direct, and making it about other people, but him.
He likely doesn't care about himself.
Make it about taking care of other people. That service need is still likely ingrained in him. It may be causing the problem in the first place, since he's not in service anymore.

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Stage an intervention.

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As someone who has struggled with this myself, it took a bad situation happening to give a wake up call. Had someone close to me outside my household confronted me, I would have been argumentative, but I also would have appreciated it. He probably forgot his “why” and just needs to be reminded. Good on you for taking the initiative and being a friend.

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Wow that's a tough one! I'd be honest, I have been through it myself and I have a few friends in that past that didn't win this battle. A friend is currently leaving the NAVY and is in the same head space but doesn't talk about it.
Been learning about communication. One question that 'found me' is "what's on your mind?" It's a curious question. Start there and see if your friend is open to a conversation. Maybe it will take the conversation in a diff direction. While it may not be what you want, it could give your friend the sense of belonging which is important for someone that maybe considering drastic measures
❤️ I hope, with all my heart, you are able to reach your friend and help them

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As a veteran I agree with the blunt approach, my sister started seeing a vet long term who had similar issues, I told my parents I'd fly home if he showed up to their home drunk again and it abruptly ceased. Sometimes knowing someone is watching is all we need to tighten our shot group.

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That is the paradox

Caring and being ready to help.

Sometimes you have to let them find their bottom....unfortunately for many that happens only once.

Source: wife is addict/alcoholic and schizoaffective

You’re beyond “tactful”, particularly if it involves self-harm/harm to others.

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