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McKinsey & Company Anyone at McKinsey & Company willing to refer a Marine veteran (OIF, I swear I will not eat all the crayons. "Crayons" are for art is what my wife tells me to tell myself)
5yrs Marines (Sgt, Comm maint tech w infantry Bn)
8yrs in Oil & Gas (engr coordinator, qty surveying and proj ctrl)
CM undergrad
MBA (professional program, graduated May 2022)
I'm looking for a role in McK serving O&G, industrial, capital projects clients. Open to generalist roles as well. Can review for vetting.
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Blunt, direct, and making it about other people, but him.
He likely doesn't care about himself.
Make it about taking care of other people. That service need is still likely ingrained in him. It may be causing the problem in the first place, since he's not in service anymore.
Stage an intervention.
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As someone who has struggled with this myself, it took a bad situation happening to give a wake up call. Had someone close to me outside my household confronted me, I would have been argumentative, but I also would have appreciated it. He probably forgot his “why” and just needs to be reminded. Good on you for taking the initiative and being a friend.
Wow that's a tough one! I'd be honest, I have been through it myself and I have a few friends in that past that didn't win this battle. A friend is currently leaving the NAVY and is in the same head space but doesn't talk about it.
Been learning about communication. One question that 'found me' is "what's on your mind?" It's a curious question. Start there and see if your friend is open to a conversation. Maybe it will take the conversation in a diff direction. While it may not be what you want, it could give your friend the sense of belonging which is important for someone that maybe considering drastic measures
❤️ I hope, with all my heart, you are able to reach your friend and help them
As a veteran I agree with the blunt approach, my sister started seeing a vet long term who had similar issues, I told my parents I'd fly home if he showed up to their home drunk again and it abruptly ceased. Sometimes knowing someone is watching is all we need to tighten our shot group.
That is the paradox
Caring and being ready to help.
Sometimes you have to let them find their bottom....unfortunately for many that happens only once.
Source: wife is addict/alcoholic and schizoaffective
You’re beyond “tactful”, particularly if it involves self-harm/harm to others.