I have a coworker in my group at the same level that constantly what's to compare our performance (reviews, utilization, projects). To me it seems like underlying jealousy or insecurity. Personally, my philosophy is I do my best and let the chips fall where they fall. Not really worried about comparing myself to others. How do I manage this?

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I would just be honest with the person and tell them exactly what you wrote here because I think you hit the nail on the head on where it’s coming from. Do it in a way that shows you’re genuinely trying to help the person so they can boost their confidence from within.

By the way, this is a great mindset you have (not comparing yourself to others, letting your work speak for itself), especially in a social-media driven world. Don’t ever lose that; it’ll take you very far in your career!

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If you don’t care, then why do anything about it? You must care at some level or find it annoying? I’d leave it alone and let that person compare themselves to you. You can be their barometer so to speak. They are likely insecure about their own performance, so why not help them build confidence instead of tearing them down?

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Tell them your philosophy or if you’re worried about coming off rude, just say it casually and let them spew whatever they want but don’t respond with your stuff, say you’re busy. Tell them you think they’re doing fine to appease them and change the subject lol. That’s what I do.

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