I may be reading too much into this so tell me if you think so. I'm the only woman on a product management team for a smallish company. We're having a holiday party next Tuesday night, and my boss randomly asked me if I could bring some festive stuff to spruce up the venue. Flowers, lights, etc. It's not a big deal, but I am a little miffed that it was delegated to me since I am the only woman on the team. I'm not an assistant!

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Just tell him you’re swamped at the moment and perhaps <insert name> could handle it. Don’t agree to bring anything.

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You're not. While it isn't a big deal it is annoying and kind of sexist. Especially if he actually has an assistant he could have asked (does he?). Either way I would be annoyed too, it isn't your job.

You're right about your intuition. Couldn't he have at least given you a team to work with for the job istead of laying it on you alone? How disrespectful.

Your boss probably thought you're the most creative in the office. I have mixed feelings about this as well. What did you tell him?

I completely agree with you that it's a bit sexist to leave that role to you alone being the only woman there. I wouldn't put up with it if it were me. I don't know about you though

It's a mindless decision on his part. That's crazy to think about that men do not consciously think about what women feel. Hope there is a solution

As much as I would like to just let it pass and think he meant I'm the most creative one in the group instead but it somehow bothers me. I would totally understand if he asked other male employees to take over the same task.

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