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4 years today. #grateful #keepcomingback
How’s everyone doing?
4 years next month
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One year today yay!
8 years sober today! I love AA.
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Admitting you have a problem is the first step. So you have already started! Congratulations! Many people find success in 12-step programs like NA and AA. Take in a meeting or three to see if it’s for you. If it’s not, that’s ok. Whatever you do, keep reaching out, come back here for support. You can do this! Just take it one day at a time. Good luck! 💜
Also: if you don’t have someone in your life you trust enough to be honest with (I didn’t at first), feel free to DM me. Best to you.
If you have the shakes or have ever had a seizure from drinking, talk to a doctor. If you don’t have the shakes - go to an aa meeting tonight or tomorrow. Just try it for 90 days and if you don’t like it, no harm no foul. If you’re in NYC, feel free to DM me
Big congrats on taking the first step. Below is the advice I got that has lead to me staying clean after many false starts and rejecting groups for a long time. Of course this is just my experience, not yours necessarily. But putting it out there in case it resonates.
1) go to a variety of different groups/meetings... AA, NA, Refuge Recovery, SMART, etc. Some you will vibe with, some you will not. They are all different flavors and all that really matters is that you find one that will help you.
2) Look for the commonalities with people in rooms, not differences. Try and stay open to ideas. Our brains want to find reasons to say “this is bullshit” so we can get back to using. I used go to meetings and hear speakers/shares and say “wow, these people are way worse than me, I’ve never (insert excuse). I’m not that bad”.
It wasn’t until I shared my rock bottom story on my year birthday that I stepped outside myself and was like “holy shit, that was a crazy story, I bet someone new here thought to themselves they are glad they were never that bad”.
Best of luck. Check back with us.
How are you doing today OP?
You are in our thoughts and prayers 🙏. Go to a 12 step meeting and just listen. You’ll eventually hear someone tell your story and begin to connect. Introduce yourself when they ask if there are any newcomers in the room. Let us know how you are doing! 🙏
Oh man, I have been there. It’s SO hard to quit when all your friends do it, too. The booze for me always led to the blow. I eventually stopped because I started to take my health really seriously. I was worried about dying. And I didn’t want to die from doing blow all night and then taking a Xanax (which I often did). The last straw for me: I popped a Norco one night headed out to dinner with friends - after being up all night the night before - and I ended up spending the entire evening going back and forth to the bathroom to puke. That was basically it for me. It had reached that point of just being gross. Of being really sick. Of finally being un-fun. I decided I wanted my weekends to feel GOOD. To wake up on Saturday and go DO something, not plan my day around scoring and then recovering all day Sunday with more booze and an achey, serotonin depleted haze of depression. It’s hard to quit when it’s still fun. But how fun is it really? How fun are those hangovers? The stuffy nose? The blood and boogers on your pillow? Think of yourself as worth it, as your health as being everything that matters. ❤️
^ Agree with all this. Congratulations! Also (I wish I’d started doing this early) I suggest trying to get there a bit before the meeting, and staying a bit after. It can feel awkward at first, but it’s a great way to meet people who can help you build a community that doesn’t revolve around booze/drugs.
I already failed today. I mean, not entirely. I will try to end before midnight (Midwest). And not do anything stupid. Thanks for the replies. I have decided to clean up my life, and really appreciate your openness. It’s just so freaking tough, I already got stabbed because of that, already had a heart attack, and not too long ago I pulled a coke fueled stunt in some shady whoerhouse that first almost got me shot and then almost deported.
You didn’t fail. Just take it an hour at a time and look up meetings. Google intergroup, and find a meeting for tomorrow. We have all been where you are in some way or another.
Hang in there! It gets greater later. I was stumbling for YEARS. It only gets worse. Go to a mtg. It’s counterintuitive but don’t think about it. Just do it.