I was laid off 2 &a half months ago from my toxic job & have been super unsuccessful in finding a job, no matter what i do. To top it all off, my boyfriend just told me he won't be renewing his lease in Feb & will be moving back to his mom's house. I was PISSED!!! I told him on multiple occasions how he should consider moving in to a cheaper apt or condo & he could be saving money--but he never wanted to do it & chose to remain where he currently is in this expensive, overpriced apt (CONTD)

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OP you have been posting about your relationship struggles here on fishbowl for over a year now. When will you take the step to actually move on from this toxicity. Or do you just want to continue to play victim and not take a stand for yourself?

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(CONTD) overpriced apartment.

Now I have no choice but to move back home to my my parents' house with them & my toxic, older siblings--which was horrible when I did live there because it was an extremely, negative toxic environment.

He kept trying to touch me and asked me why I was being so mean, but I told him not to touch me, that he got on my nerves, & that its so messed up that all of this is happening right mow while im unemployed. Him putting his arms around me & saying to me how im welcome to move in with him a year from now if im still looking for an apartment is BS & not helpful at all. We've been together for 7 years & he never even discusses marriage or the future with me FFS!!

Im offically pissed & no moving back to his mom's house with his stepdad, brother, his wife, & their 2 kids is a BIG HELL NO for me. Im stressed even more than I was before. Smh.

Im strongly considered pursuing getting a Property and Casualty license because I cant take this crap anymore. I should be married & more stable in my life by now. Smh

So hard to know where to start with this. Seems like you looking to blame and be pissed at outside world that will alway be outside your control. Look inward and use your energy for yourself. 1. Pursue your license. Why just considering? You have nothing to loose. 2. That boy of yours doesn't owe you anything, definetly not roof over your head if you not in future building relationship. You living life you built for yourself. Reread your post here. How is your problems also his problems. Time to focus on you not how everyone else is not doing their part to make your life easier.

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