I was sexually harassed by a male colleague a few years ago (M here) I went from being one of the highest performers in my group 2 years ago to one of the lowest performers and I’m on the verge of being put on a PIP. This has affected my life in so many ways and idk if I can recover from it. I feel helpless and ashamed of what happened and I’ve become completely numb. I wish those around me would’ve shown a little compassion and tried to talk to me instead of assuming I was being lazy.

How do you deal with working on a brand that you're new on and all the past work has been awful but you're forced to continue on with the look/feel/tone of?

What are some essential travel items to request for Christmas/Birthday from family? Also, any recommendations on a good, sturdy, cute briefcase for women?

Just got out of the Army and transitioned to the business world. I have no clue how to dress. I’ve worn a uniform almost everyday for 7 years. Anyone have any advice for how to dress in the workplace?

How do you impress a partner you don't know that well and meeting one on one for the first time?

How do you deal with imposter syndrome? I'm a new therapist and I work with a bunch of women who have been doing this for ages. They're all really sweet, but I can't help feeling like I'm way out of my league. I mostly see younger clients which I guess works in my favor, but I just feel like I'm totally incompetent compared to the women I work with.

I work with quite a few oldheads in my department, I’d like to know how to convince the higher-ups that we need to evolve our strategies to bring us in line with best current practices. However, I don’t want to act out of line or be disrespectful since this is my first role and I have less than a year here.

My manager micro manages everything I do, and I’m losing my mind. Wanted to see how any of you have handled a manager like this, and get some advice on how to tell them to literally stop.

How do you deal with a management that doesn't seem to have a concrete process in doing campaigns? (Continued)

For those that transferred internally from Audit —-> TAS, how did you talk to your partner about making the move? Just talked to mine and he seemed pretty upset. Our business is understaffed and I am considered a “high” performer. Just wondering if this should have been generally expected/your experiences were the same.

Does anyone know what the dress code is for the upcoming CAALA Trial Skills seminar? Do people usually wear suits or is it business casual? Thank you!

Have you seen women wear ties and "masculine"-looking suits to work? Was it accepted by client and team? I've never worn a tie to work, but when I've worn clothing that had a more "masculine" fit either in grad school or some work environments, I've gotten comments and looks, or sometimes asked (or people gossiped) about my orientation. When I wear more "feminine"-looking clothing, I feel more more uncomfortable and awkward. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Anyone witness slackers who got into companies you have no idea how? Had a coworker who does jack chit at work besides chatting on Facebook yet lands at a faang company? I guess if he brings the same work ethic he will be spit out for sure. Or maybe he just had no interest in doing project work.

Hi. People Manager here. I've been one for 12 years now and I encourage my team to not be "yes" people. At this time, it feels like my manager wants me and my team to be yes people for her. How do I deal with this? I've never been a yes person and I don't preach this to my reports. I don't know what to do. Help?

I keep fighting with the product managers on my team, who keep assigning me new features to build without checking first if I had the bandwidth for it. How do I communicate this politely?

Any advice on dealing with a Partner who lacks project management/leadership skills? I'll take any suggestion...a podcast, a TedTalk, a yoga position, wine, hard liquor, basically anything.

I recently took a new role (going on 4 months) and I’m struggling to feel connected. I’m an HR team of 2 and my VP and I get along but I’m missing the team environment. I loved my prior company and team and want to go back. I’m worried if I reach out how this will be received. 😬

At my law firm, only senior associates and partners go to court and take depositions. Is this normal for a big/vault law firm?

“At dinner John (client) said I have nice legs, grabbed my thigh, put his arm around me & invited me to his hotel. Seems inappropriate.” Boss: “Well we won’t be taking him to dinner again this year”🤯

I am fed up of my people lead/supervisor
Gives unrealistic deadlines, has no time for discussion and next day he is up with his nagging behaviour

Doesnt even know how to talk in a certain professional manner, fed up with his nagging behaviour.

And yeah forgets everything! Need to remind him each and everytime about the tasks and boom, then he comes up with his negative demotivating statements!

How did you give notice you were lateraling to people you like? Particularly if you haven't been there that long?

I'm lateraling to another firm because frankly I think the management of this one is terrible, but the people (and individual partners) I actually work with are awesome. I've only been here for about 18 months, so I imagine that short time frame will make it extra awkward 😬

Moving to the area for work and was wondering if I live off of the San Bernardino metrolink line, when I bring the train in to Union Station and then transfer to the LA metro system, will I end up ...

How to approach re-negotiating the offer after initially accepting the offer? Is it fine to re-negotiate with a counteroffer? If so, when is the best time to approach the company for re-negotiation?

Hi All

I am having 2.7 years of experience and looking for a functional testing role
Can someone please refer me in Oracle??

Tools: Siebel CRM, Jira, Bugzilla, HP- ALM
Skills : System Testing, Regression Testing, Brm testing

Please help

Should I leave my first permanent job as a team leader of 4 DPs in a FMCG business (only been there for 4 months) to join a huge Tech business for a 12months contract?

They offer me 60% more money than my permanent role. Circa 2000 dollars every month in my pocket

However, I am worried if I accept the tech role and I do not become permanent I will be looking again for a job in 12-24 months and my CV won't be showing a managerial position. Won't be showing any progress.

Best experience at a gay bar?

Hi. I am looking for a Salesforce Admin Job as a fresher. I have little experience with certification. Can someone guide me.
I am currently in Toronto.

Hi fishes,
Yoe-7 techstack - .net,MVC,webapi,azure certification (az-204) but no hands on azure projects.

Unisys- 23 Lpa(fixed) ,LWD - 23 oct ,CCTC -14.5
Given number of interviews but no one are ready to give more than this even if I reach last rounds.
I am confused right now like should give some more interviews or join the unisys?

Is unisys good company to join and how about wlb and hikes in unisys?

TIA

Are ya’ll getting holiday gifts for your judge & JA and if so, what are you getting for them? The culture of my court is definitely a gift-giving one, and I really like my JA and my judge so I want to get both of them something small (like a plant, but not a plant lol).

We’re hiring across a variety of roles. If one on our site catches your eye - happy to refer if you DM! 😊

When presented with designed screens for an app and asked to review it and finalise it, how long will it take you to pick up the trail and come back to the client with feedback? Say around 10 screens.

Any designer transitioned to a product manager role? How did you do it? (Outside of internal work transition, more interested in acquiring a new role in a diff company from designer to pm) thanks!

Thinking this is the year i iA find someone, prayers for all of us single 🐟 wanting to take that next step!

Hello, can someone provide the compensation range for Security Engineer position at Amazon?

Hi all! I am looking to transition from an administrative job to an HR position, and it seems impossible to find something because most job postings require years and years of HR experience, and I can’t even make it through to the interview stage despite my 6 years of administrative experience. Any advice?

Hello, which is more beneficial Master’s in Human Resources or PHR Certification?

Can anyone refer me for any position in Deloitte. I did bcom honours and I am a fresher.

Completed my Loop interview this week. So nervous but weirdly relieved. Put so much into it and I think I did well but one can never be sure.


Now the wait.

Anyone actually use the Networking feature here on fishbowl? Like yeah I see some of you with it on but do you actually use it besides thirsty dms?

Alright so here’s the log for today: I went out and got really day drunk. Got home, took a nap and now have a killer headache but im alive, had some shawarma for dinner and have will to live again. I feel like I probably had work to do today but thats a problem for another day

I think deep dish pizza is overrated.

I’m seriously considering eating dinner at 5:30pm. Does that mean I’m officially old??

Hulu commercial times are getting out of hand

So much work, so little time😭

Why are sibling relationships so complicated? We live in the same city. 23M w 21M bro in same city. We’ve always clashed, got closer in 2016-2019, then in covid started fighting and not being close. 2021 summer we got into some bad fights where he said some hurtful things that made me kind of hold a grudge until our fight in September. 2022 we’ve gotten a lot closer and only minimally clashed but still even tho we share personal things sometimes and have more mutual respect, cont

Is anyone concerned the push for sexual equality in pay without accordant leveling of parental leave is gonna backfire?

Here’s a hypothetical:

A company has 2 candidates, aged 25-30, equal in every respect save one’s a man the other’s a woman. Maybe the woman is a slightly better candidate overall. They’d have equal comp.

Company considers the woman a riskier bet due to possibility she’ll take maternity leave — and considers the man less risky for his ineligibility to take as much leave. 🤷

Just found out that my favorite aunt, who claimed I was her “favorite” niece, chose to leave all her valuables to her other two nieces who never visited or called her once in the last ten years. My aunt passed away suffering from cancer last year and didn’t have her own kids. I was there by her side throughout her battle. I still wish I had done more, made her life easier. I probably sound petty, but a part of me is forcing me to re-evaluate every interaction I ever had with her.

I think I might get a divorce

I want the quarantine dry spell to be over.. 🤨🧟‍♀️

Has anyone else who had omicron experienced their sore throat returning? I’ve had no symptoms for a week and a half, and then just woke up with that same awful scratchy throat 🥴

It’s my birthday today. Took off from work. In a chatty mood. Anyone want to talk? Lol. M fish 🐠 here.

Let’s try a game: put some song lyrics into consulting / corporate speak and we have to try to guess the song. I’ll start:
Young lady, what is your name?
I’d like to converse with you, perhaps purchase you an alcoholic beverage,
I’m T-Pain, you are likely aware of who I am already,
I am signed to Konvict Muzik and Nappy Boy Record labels, ooh wee,
It is my understanding that this establishment closes at 3 AM, what would you say the odds are of you continuing the night with me?

Hypothetical Q: If a house has two half baths and three full baths, how are they counted? 4 Baths, or 3.5 baths +.5 baths?

I dislike pickles and anything picked with ALL MY FREAKING HEART. 🥴

It’s interesting how ambition can actually be a bad thing. I want to make tens of millions and impact millions of people and leave a big legacy. But then the problem is with dreams that big I struggle so much to relax. I feel so much pressure to always be productive. I’m a human doing not a human being. And then I also think “well dang if I want to accomplish all these things I should be further by now” which that isn’t good for mental health either. I wish I was content with less