Im 26M, Currently WFH. I recently bought a Car. This is the first car im my family. However Im facing a problems with my father post that. He is picking up unwanted fights with me. He refused to come to showroom when i took delivery. Yesterday i found that someone put dirty wet clothes on bonnet. When i enquired, it was him. When i asked not to put dirts on car, he is replying it is his home and he can throw dirts anywhere. Is it time for me to move out? Im fed up. Pour some suggestions.

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Relax.. He is your dad. All these years he worked hard to raise you up. Parents are best gifts to children. Sometimes they behave differently but stil they are your family. You can't think of leaving a bond because of non living things (after few yrs nobody will take it even in half rate what you bought).

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Take him to some trip.


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Do you think moving out will solve the issues with family members!

Avoiding anything increases yours problem more. Best take some appropriate actions to resolve that issue

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how was your relation been before buying a car. Was it good or he has always been like this?

He was Normal typical Strict Indian dad. Just doing these unwanted conflicts post the purchase.

how was your relation been before buying a car. Was it good or he has always been like this?

Tere tarakki sehen nahi ho rahi beta.. beta hai tho beta ban baaap mat ban.. thats the thought.

After seeking suggestions from everyone.. What did you learn and what have you decided?? Pour out your thoughts

You have dad atleast

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Pehle tune decide kara hoga move out ka, now looking for only reasons 🙃

Gaslighting

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Ye to kuch v nhi hai, hum to ek 26 lakh ka jamin le liye installment pe wo mana krte the ki unko v dekhna prega wha family ka chicken farm hai so expand krne ka soch k liye wo mna krte ki unko jana prega 30 kms kon krega. Is chakar me ab tak 10 bar jamin k kaam se hum khud or apna chacha do decision or payment me adha k partner wo jaate. Luckily papa se relation thk hai bs wo jamin k kaam se nhi jaate kvi

Mere papa bhi same karte hai, hum koi property dekh ke purchase karenge toh kabhi lene nahi denge, but khud koi sadi si property dekh lenge aur kahenge yeh lena hai.

What's your father saying? Did he ask for something?

Nope, just an ego clash it seems.

Throw 'it' out of the house maybe?

If you're son bought something which he loves, with his own hard earned money. Will you say to throw it out ?

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Did you buy costly car..did he object before buying

He neither objected, nor agreed. However i wanna buy it as it was a dream. I paid 40% of money from my own savings and remaining covered with car loan. Totally it cost around my 1 year salary. Despite this im giving 30 to 40% of my income for family expenses.

He must me worried why you have wasted money on buying the car which is not needed right now. Please post his side of the story also here.

Its not a big thing - drying clothes on a car. I am sure it doesn’t effect the car in any meaningful way. Chill. Just ask him that you wanted him to be present at the delivery. You want him to be part of your and family s happiness

Gift that car to him.

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Does he drink? Maybe try to have couple of beers together and conversation will flow smoothly.

It’s your life, you make decision and stand by it.

You wanted car, you bought it, nothing wrong in that. You buying car hurt you father, not your fault.

Don’t think much. Peace.

If need be, move out. Enjoy your life and keep making decisions that you want.

You have to live your life in your conditions and not your parents or society. If your father is not happy in your happiness, it says a lot about his character.

You are not wrong ☺️

Is it your money thst went into buying the car?
And are you in any way dependent on your parents' finances for your well being?
If not, move out and don't bother about the pettiness.
If yes, it's a whole different discussion.
We idolize our parents but truth be told, we are better than them. That's the whole point of evolution

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Talk to him, figure out what's wrong, what is bothering him. If his issues are justified then try to solve them, if they are not justified then don't succumb to the pressure and do what feels right to you.
have your father ever been this unreasonable in the past? is this normal for him to be so admant. does he behaves like this always with everyone, if yes then its not your fault and whatever you do is not going to make him happy.
If moving out is on your mind from long a long time then may be thats the best solution for you.
Parents are people too, and people can be wrong. Our parents love us, they raised us, they gave us everything we have, but it does not mean that they can torture us mentally over silky things just to satisfy their ego. there can be bad parents.
This is upto you now to figure out if this is happening in your case, if you have loving parents and this is something which is even slightly your fault then apologies and make it right. If its not then take the decision which will make you happy even if it makes your parents unhappy

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