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Relax.. He is your dad. All these years he worked hard to raise you up. Parents are best gifts to children. Sometimes they behave differently but stil they are your family. You can't think of leaving a bond because of non living things (after few yrs nobody will take it even in half rate what you bought).
Take him to some trip.
ਬਾਪੂ, ਤੇਰੇ ਕਰਕੇ ਮੈਂ ਪੈਰਾਂ 'ਤੇ ਖਲੋ ਗਿਆ
ਤੂੰ cycle ਆ 'ਤੇ ਕੱਟੀ ਤੇ ਮੈਂ ਗੱਡੀ ਜੋਗਾ ਹੋ ਗਿਆ
"Punjabi Song Lyrics - Bapu Tere Karke
Song by Amar Sandhu"
Achha ji
Okay. Let's get this straight. What your father is doing is wrong, most likely because of some baggage or some unfulfilled expectation.
1. Get him to talk. It would be difficult but try. By his behaviour it seems like a predominantly male dominated setup. Make it sound like a "man to man conversation". Be crystal clear in communication and blunt(not rude) if needed. It is better to clear the air right away rather than keeping things nice now, and breaking relationships in future. Ask him, is he expecting a financial contribution? Does he expect you to follow a particular lifestyle? Identify the cause of his discomfort.
2. You would constantly have to assure him. This car is for family. It is not an indication that you are rebellious or you don't care. He can drive it whenever he wants. Assure him that he matters. Take him for a drive after he has mellowed down, and teach him to drive(long shot but worth trying if circumstances permit) once you have had multiple rounds of conversations.
Thanks you for this suggestion
Hey are you contributing in monthly home expenses.
Taking care of few financial responsibilities , which he might be expecting.
I don't think, its car.
It might be some other unfulfilled expectations.
If you dont know , just try asking clearly and calmly (In private, not in front of your mom or anyone else).
I know but with time , you will replace your car trust me.
So dont priorities temporary things over family.
You will understand it with time. (in 6 month or 1 year only from now)
Again, i am not saying your father's behaviour is correct. But with age some people become wise some become more egoistic, and thats not in our hands
Once you are married you will see other dynamics changing as well 😂.
So have patience , sort , if you can . Or understand many things are out of our control
भाई ये जो माल तू फुक रहा आज कल ये मुझे भी चाहीये
Job thor de aur papa ke paise par palo... Tab jakar unke kaleje ko thandak paiga...
Simple hai bhai... Papa ko bhi gari chalana sikha do...
Bhai itna seriously mat le, chill have a talk with dad...idhar logo ko puchhkr kya krlega...better u talk with ur family
Your story seems too one sided. I'm sure there's another side that you're not telling us about. Can also be unrelated issues that are manifested through the car.
Does he want you to get married? Did you refuse to "loan" money to some relative for your father to maintain his self respect? Can be any such friction.
But if you can afford to buy a car, why can't you move out? Sometimes distance makes bonds closer. That's my personal experience.
Chief
Is car the real reason , or continuing from some other fight picked up earlier.
No matter what the issue is still he is just behaving immature. We all have arguments at home even for silly reason (later we laugh about). That's normal
Chief
Abki baar gana ye wala bajana gaadi mein " Papa kehte hain bada naam karega "
This is better solution. Try to take family for ride to some peaceful place. Take ur mom into confidence n talk to ensure dad comes to trip n play songs. Slowly discuss old stuff childhood memories n things would calm down. Hope this helps.
Jb aap baap se jyada kamate ho na toh kbhi kbhar unhe acha ni lgta. They thought that someone taking his position and out of jealous they do these things but I would say ignore these things. Also, it totally depends on situation to situation.
Have you asked him before buying car?
I guess sometimes parents behave like a kid so just make sure you do your 101% to make them happy.
Bhai enjoy fights with your father and take the dirt and put it in the place your father loves to sit. Enjoy the time you have with your parents, it’s precious. Don’t think about moving
1 old line - Baap or Saap 2no sey Bach kar rehna chahiye😃 anyways aap bhi kabhi baap banoge sir. Jaane do bhai dal diya Dal diya apke he toh papa hai. Kya tension baap kuch bhi kare car ke upar, he made us this capable enough to earn in lakhs to buy new car and soon may be in cr(I pray for u bro). Chaar or new car laake rekh dena tab.
Baap ka haaq hai vo, accept it and respect it(at 1age u will be doing same) papa logo ko acha lagta hai haaq jamana.
Kabhi le jao unko akele party mey🍷🍸
Khula dil rakho kyu ki baap ne bhi rekha Hoga aapke liye
Which car did you buy? Curious
Is hi liye....
Should have bought a home first and moved out…
Bapu kai sath daru party karo aur poocho kya chahiye
A man to man talk will resolve this. Just take him out for a coffee or walk. If he denies, insist on the same. Make him comfortable,let him open up about the issues which he has. Be patient and let him speak his heart out. Don't react as if everything is normal.
I am damn sure this date between a father and son will definitely resolve the issue.
May be he has his own concerns for maintaining that car instead some other things could have been sorted for him with that that investment....sit and check with him about all the debts and sort this issue..no father would express his inefficiency for paying back the debts/ point out sons success.
Ideally, your father should have supported you. Was it your decision alone to get a family car?
Either way, your father should be proud of you and support you.
Maybe you are not his son after all 🙊
Chill, at this age... Ye har ghar me hota hai
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