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This made me lol 😭
Consultant with 15lpa fixed in KGS, is that low?
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Relax.. He is your dad. All these years he worked hard to raise you up. Parents are best gifts to children. Sometimes they behave differently but stil they are your family. You can't think of leaving a bond because of non living things (after few yrs nobody will take it even in half rate what you bought).
Take him to some trip.
ਬਾਪੂ, ਤੇਰੇ ਕਰਕੇ ਮੈਂ ਪੈਰਾਂ 'ਤੇ ਖਲੋ ਗਿਆ
ਤੂੰ cycle ਆ 'ਤੇ ਕੱਟੀ ਤੇ ਮੈਂ ਗੱਡੀ ਜੋਗਾ ਹੋ ਗਿਆ
"Punjabi Song Lyrics - Bapu Tere Karke
Song by Amar Sandhu"
Achha ji
You can buy car but you can't buy him a shirt.
You can pay car emi but you can't pay his emi.
You can enjoy you salary but has wasted 23 yrs
Buy the car, call it as gift to him, drive the car freely and now its ur car, but with lot of praise and no problem
Rising Star
Just sit with him while no one is around and ask him what is wrong.
What does he want.
Whatever he responds you dont loose your cool and show the utmost respect while talking to him and asking.
Listen to whatever he has to say and then politely respond.- ' aage se dhyan rakhunga' sorry.
Thats all they want, to feel everything is still under their control.
Let him feel so, you dont really have to do anything just make him feel imp again.(while you do whatever you want anyways).
Or you can take the shortcut and move out.
Rising Star
@xoriant.
Yes i think father should be more mature. I also think a lot of other things as well. But its not an ideal world.
So instead of expecting the other person to be right, own up, do good etc i prefer to look what more I and in this case the author can do to improve the situation without hurting himself.
Also, even father being elder and all, its the first time for the fathers as well to go through mid life. They haven't done this before.
If you think more you will realize how different father-son relationships have become from his generation to this generation.
How can we expect them to understand and change as per demand when they don't have any visibility/ social development happening for them since decades.
So there are a lot of things to consider. Yeah i would want him to be the mature one, doing things right, be able to handle change etc.
But isn't it just tooo much to expect a peraon to be right always right from the day u were born till they die? Why cant they be wrong sometimes as well like we have been so many times?
- not a rant, just trying to paint a complete picture.
In the end there is no relationship as pure as we have with out parents, so its good to occasionaly accept that they are right (even though we know they are not) and cut them some slack so they can feel acvomplished as well in there mind
-- just a thought. Thanks.
Chief
Buy a clothing rope as well so dirty wet clothes could be hung there
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Not all parents are God-like. Some parents are toxic and selfish too. The sooner you accept this fact, the better. I know I may sound like a toxic liberal out to destroy our Indian values, it is not so.
Most Indian parents have grown up with a certain set of values and ideals that even their parents never actually lived up to. This generation lives way more freely and some parents feel bad that they didn't get to.
Most humans suffer from FOMO and most parents don't have the maturity to let go of their control on their kids. But in order for you to become a self sufficient individual capable of making your own decisions, for you to become a man capable of taking care of your family, it has to happen. Whether or not they like it.
Have a man to man talk with your father. Ask him the cause of his displeasure. If it is something valid, address it then and there. If it is something invalid, be firm and tell him that. But with the sensitivity that you would like him to be a part of your success
I agree not all parents are good. My brother in laws parents are so possessive that they impede his personal and professional growth. They control him like crazy, citing they love him.
Never have I ever thought that in my consulting journey, I would come across a management case like this!!
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Maybe you are taking his role and he can't see it.
Maybe he was always the man of the house and now someone came and showed him that he is much more successful than him.
Maybe he is doing it subconsciously out of ego and jealousy.
It's part of man's nature.
He should be happy though seeing his son progress.
Rising Star
Kuch bhi bologe kya😂
Don't justify his actions by saying it's part of man's nature.
Putting dirty clothes on car bonnet is in your nature??
Certainly it's not in mine.
Chief
Sure move out but why don't you talk to him and understand what the problem is
This is male version of saas-bahu drama
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Bachpan se baap ne tera diaper change kiya hoga, multiple times you would have spoiled his shirt. Aaj bonet mai dirty cloth rakh diya usne to tujhe bura lag raha hai?
Kal k din jab tu baap banega tab baap ke sacrifices samjh ayenge.
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IBA1 what went wrong with you man? Can you explain I can see your comments on all replies bashing parents
Rising Star
Jealous dad😂
Ignore him bro, his toxic mindset cannot be changed now.
Car papa ke naam par lena tha na bhai.... Jar ki wajah khatam..
U should have asked his opinion before making this huge purchase or taken him out for first ride.
May be write something in your car which would make him happy and makes him feel it's his car as well.
Dad and Moms blessing et all
Ask him what's the actual reason...his activities suggest that he might be irritated out of financial factors or may be he just want to control your life. Ask him respectfully what is the real issue....if he sounds reasonable try to find a neutral ground however please don't suck it up just because he is your father( like some people are suggesting) since ideal children also require ideal parents....it's definitely not a one way street
100%. It shouldn't be a one way Street.
what does WFH do with that? and what support u r expecting by posting this in forum ? why would ur father do that ? he is ur gurdian, the way u posted it here- seems u as a son, dont respect ur father.
may b it sound bitter- i thought it hence said. sorry in advance , its ur family matter. fishbowl has nothing to do with it!
Aisa sab sochenge toh bohot saare bowls hi band ho jayenge dost.
Talk to him...pucho scene kya hai abbu? You are driving me crazy
Move out. See the world. Come back when your parents are old.
Pro
First thing, congratulations on your first car. Second thing is ye middle class wale ma baap aese hi hotey hai.. 😭
Chill bro. Such fights are common in every family.