I'm dating a girl whose family is generationally wealthy, and realized I may not be the right type to date her. For those who married into wealthy families, how have you managed that change?

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I need you to look deep and tell me you don’t think you shouldn’t date this person, whether or not your personalities and interests are fully compatible, because she has lots of money? Because if that’s the case, I would recommend working on yourself and being more secure

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bro fake it until you make it. no prenup, livin the life

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Yeah, man. It’s tuff for the young bulls

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Manager1, you live in a fairytale. Dating someone with financial possibilities ways put of your league is very complicated, no matter on which side of the wealth you’re on (unless of course you’re a sugarbabe/boy or gold digger).

Love and compatibility are clearly very important but when it comes to travelling somewhere, meeting friends, gifts for special occasions, etc is all very tricky. It’s the same even when friends have massive disparity in money, as one of them will need to act in a way they would never do otherwise.

OP, it can still work and I hope it does but it will take a while to adjust your habits and hers. I think how nice and open is her family will be critical.

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Store cake and a bucket of ice cream is better than nothing.

Do it, love is harder when you’re broke

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Hahaha, very true

I think this has more to do with lifestyle and expectations than actual wealth. How does she like to live? What are her expectations from life? If she wants to eat at Michelin star restaurants 3x a week and always travel business class everywhere and you don’t think you’d be okay keeping up with that, that’s a problem. If on the other hand you both have similar mindsets around how to spend money and live, that’s not necessarily an issue.

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She’s always reassuring me that she is willing to compromise on spending. But, I know it’s not fair to make her fit into lifestyle she’s not used to

Why is this only ever a problem when the girl comes from money and the guy doesn’t?

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I would answer this but I don’t want my account suspended

too complicated, move on
you’ll spend your life trying to measure up and fit in. They may shut you down before it goes anywhere anyhow

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Yeah, this is a feeling I’ve had in the back of my head constantly gnawing.

5 years

Have you been dating for 5 years?

Class differences sink relationships. My wealthy friends and I don't speak often and I feel alienated by their conservative views even if they identify as liberal. Wealth always alters how people relate to the world.

thats not always true. if it were then something like hypergamy wouldn’t exist despite it existing throughout time. although what you’ve described at least in my opinion is value differences/moral differences. which can come with wealth differences but i dont think its always the case

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